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Stevie - That's wonderful!! BFP confirmed! CONGRATULATIONS & please keep us posted as news unfolds! Cheers, Monica

Hello to all of you. You all seem so supportive of each other. I was so glad to hear that clomid has worked for someone. I will start my first cycle of clomid early next month. I am hoping that i will get positive results. My dh and i have been trying for 6 mo now and no luck at all. My period is very irregular and it is hard to tell when i am ovulating and when i do o it is very late in my cycle and they get longer each month. It is nice to have someone to share this with because my husband and i really dont want anyone to know that we are trying in case something happends i dont think i could take people coming up and talking to me about that. I finally o yesterday for this month, even though i know it is such a long shot i cant help but to think maybe this month without the meds.

Monica, I am so sorry.... I would definelty find out why AF has not come if she doesnt show up in the next few days..... Not to get any hopes up, but maybe it was a false - - -?? Your Dr. might be able to help you out with that. You guys have been trying for so long, are you still not considering Clomid or anything? How long ago did you have HSG? Is it possible to have another one to make sure tubes are still open? Well, maybe we just need to move on to a better November - we always have next month right....??? Maybe with the holidays coming up we can all be so busy with them that we can stress over that instead of AF and maybe by having something else to focus on it will just allow our bodies to relax..... I know, I probably make no sense, just trying to keep positive! ;-) Let us know how it goes.....

Hi Nic, welcome to our group! I am on my second round of clomid - 50mg. Good luck when you start yours...if you have to take them...your on the dreaded two week wait huh? Well just try to stay postive and not to get discouraged right away. Have you had DH checked or any other tests done? Good luck and lots of baby dust!

Kristi - thanks for the attempt at making things positive! I am going to go as planned & wait it out to the Weekend... If no AF by Sunday - I'll be CD #38 - I've never been that off / apart... I'll test again & most likely see the BFN again & have to follow up with the Dr - again! God this TTC mission is just getting to crushing - each & every month it's the same shit! Try to be positive & hopeful & accurately planned out - BD - try not to stress, wait, be optimistic & hopeful, start to psyche up & think maybe & then it all comes crashing down with AF & you have to start all over... Ah - well, yes - there is always next month! Unough of my pity party - I'm hopeful in that next month will be all of our months! I agree w/ the holiday factor - i could use to get my mind off of things & get into the spirit!!! To answer your question, yes - I have looked @ Clomid as an option & would be set to start that next. This cycle was my one last shot at the "au natural approach" -my problem is that DH has a business trip – he’s leaving 11-05 & wont be home until 12-24 Christmas eve…. I will have missed two cycles by then. I could be induced w/ a Provera but he is scheduled to leave for a European trip 01/05 – we wouldn’t have enough CD’s to properly BD…. I will be out of the race until AT LEAST March… Thus why this is SUCH a let down. Not only will I be alone for the holidays but infertile & without any chances to try & conceive until well into the new year. I need to talk to DH about this whole fiasco / travel conflict BUT first need to get my story straight – BFN, No AF in site going on CD 36 tomorrow… All these Q’s in my mind – like I know I O’d on 10-15. What was the clot last night? Was it IB?! We BD on time… This means that lets say implantation took the maximum12 day time frame – That would’ve been yesterday according to my calculations – your body only starts producing HCG after implantation… Maybe I need to wait a few days & chill… BUT you see – this is the damned hopeful psychosis that kills me. I should just take the BFN – deal w/ it & wait for AF. Ah –whatever, like I said before -after the test she comes so: “C’MON AF: BRING IT & GET THIS OVER WITH ALREADY!!” – Lol, thanks for letting me vent. & Again – thank you for your thoughtfulness! ***BABY DUST TO ALL***

No my dh has had no testing done and really besides just going to the doctor i havent either. When i went before i had some problems but my doc seems to think that they have nothing to do with my getting pg. She just decided to start with the clomid because of my irregular cycle. I really dont know what to expect with the clomid. I know the next two weeks are the worst, i want to test every day but i know that is silly, but i just want to know instantly if i am pg. That would be something if we have been trying all this time and then i get pg right before i start meds. It is so funny how you spend all those years trying to keep from getting pg and then when you actually want to you cant. Just think of all that waisted money on bc. Kristi how long have you been trying?

Monica, I really do feel for you.... Sorry about the dh having to be gone so much, will you guys be able to hook up at all during the time he is gone? Seeing as you guys are experiencing the "unexplained infertility", maybe it is not happening becuase of all the stress you go through each month (as we all hear all the time)....but maybe, just maybe, your dh being out of town for the next few cycles is just what you guys need.....maybe you can just take it easy the next few months, quit thinking about it, quit planning and counting and all that good shit we are all having to do and just forget it all, after all since your dh will be gone, there is really no reason to even worry about it since there is nothing you can do about it right? Then when he is home and you guys are able to try again, maybe being relaxed and just happy to be together again will help relieve that stress and bam - BFP!!!! I think this is the perfect opprotunity for you to NOT have think about it all! I mean right now people tell you to not stress, don't think about it, blah blah but you CAN"T NOT think about it right....so your dh will be gone, there is nothing you can do about it, there is no reason to think about planning and timing - its the perfect time to take everyones suggestion and really be able to do it. I have no idea where you live, but I am in Wichita KS and if you are anywhere near I would have to come to my house for the holidays so you will not be alone.... ;-) My dh was gone last summer from June till October (military) and I got see hime one time that whole four months, so I know how you will feel! Hope you get to feeling better and will stay pray for NO AF for you this weekend!!!

Sorry Monica, meant would have YOU come to my house for the Holidays..LOL

Nic, I know what you mean... DH and I have really only just started TTC this last month, but we have been married 3 years with NO protection whatsoever used the whole time and no pg's. I was married before in my early 20's and we tried then as well with no luck. I wouldn't worry about the Clomid, the only side effects I have had are some mild hot flashes and being a little more emotional around ovulating time. I hear that chances of getting pg with more than twins is not very likely and even twins are not that likely so if you are worried about mulitple births or something, I wouldnt be. Do you or DH have any other children or is this your first?

Congrats Stevie!!! Your positive is very refreshing. It's about time for some good news! Nic, were you on bcp before you started trying? Monica, I have the same weird stuff coming out of me. This Sunday will be 2 weeks. I went to the dr about 3 days after it started and thought it would be AF coming soon, but he did an internal and it came back normal. SO I don't know what it is. I still haven't gotten my period yet either and also had a BFN. My DH Has been going out of town the last few weeks as well, but I still feel for you. Listen to Kristi, let loose and have some fun!! My news for today is bad. I found out last night that my aunt has stage one cancer of the uterus. She is only 39. My Grandma died of it when she was 47. Her Christmas present this year is a complete hys and probably chemo and radiation. So Stevie's good, positive news is exactly what I needed to hear. My DH is coming home tomorrow, so hopefully he's in the mood for lovin'! Where is everyone else from? I live in Saskatoon, SK Canada. We are expecting our first snow tonight!

Shawna, sorry to hear about your aunt....my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer about 4 years ago - she had a lumpectomy, radiation and chemo over a years time and has now been cancer free for a little over 3 years. Her sister (my aunt) also had breast cancer about 3 years before my mom and she is doing well also. So don't let her give up hope - I don't know much about uterine cancer, but you just have to do what you have to do and fight it! You will have to keep us posted on that as well as how you are doing. Bummer to have no AF and not be a BFP..... Hopefully you will find out something soon one way or another! And snow already!! We wont get still till at least late Nov and then it is iffy weather we get any at all!! Last year we got a HUGE ice storm that ruined alot of trees and left people w/out electricity for weeks. I like the cooler weather we are having, but not looking forward to the COLD weather to come! Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!!!

Thanks for the words of encouragement Kristi! Congratulations to your Mom, Aunt and entire family for beating cancer. October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month and it got me thinking last night. We (people ttc) should have our own month as well. I don't say this as a joke towards Breast cancer awareness, but as encouragement to eneryone on this forum. It doesn't even have to be a month, but perhaps a space of time maybe starting today and going until the end of this year. During this time each and everyone one us who have spent so long ttc with anticipation and frustration should take a day just for ourselves. Pick one day between now and new years and devote it entirely to you. Spend the day at a spa, take a road trip with some girlfriends, or better yet, send your husband and kids (if you have them) on a road trip so you can have the entire house to yourself to read, watch movies etc. The point of this day would be to promote a healthy, relaxed confident you! Do not think about babies or temperatures or tests or anything that would remind us of our current struggles. We could even name it! I think a lot of us could use a break from reality for a bit. After our special day we should come back to this sight (but not on the same day) and share our special "ME" day with one another. I am excited already! Is anyone else willingly to join? What should we name our group? It's time to think of something else. We need a new focus and it should be ourselves!! I have another reason to celebrate- no snow last night!! Thank God, I hate shovelling!

No we dont have any other children, both of us were married once before but neither of us have children. Our families are so ready for grandchildren, they are constantly saying stuff about them. Its hard not to say Look im trying layoff! But we really dont want anyone to know that we are trying. SHAWNA- i like your idea, we or at least i know that i spend so much time thinking about ttc that it kind of consumes me, i need a day just to relax and let go. To answer your question i was on bcp but stopped taking them about 6 mo before we started ttc.

The day off idea sounds wonderful to me....does that mean I can take a day off work as well??? LOL Nic, maybe you just need to tell them to layoff if that is going to take less stress off of you..... We don't need the added stress of people badgering us all the time....that is why I chose not to tell too many people that we were ttc, a few close friends and my mom/dad know and that is it, and they have all been really good about not bothering us with it. Of course my mom thinks I am getting to old to have kids now and I think she has just pretty much given up hope. Asked me when why we didnt just adopt instead of going through all this s---..... geez. But we let those we did tell know that we did not want a lot of people to know so that is why i think no one is really hounding us about it.

Well ladies, I just want to wish you all great weekends, get some rest (if you can) and try to relax....my dh is painting our computer room at home so will not be able to check back till Monday..... Have a good one!

Hi Nic, I took bcp for approximately 6 years. I stopped taking them in April and had a regular period. My next period was August 22-28. Around Oct 9 I started getting this weird pinkish cm, enough that I wore a panti-liner. I went to the dr on the 12th, had a negative test, my dr did an exam as I explained that I had this cm. He figured I was about to get my period and that everything looked normal. I still haven't gotten that period, but the cm stopped yesterday. My dr told me it could take up to a year to be regular, but I was never really regular before the bcp. So now I have no idea what to expect. He said to come back in a month to have another hpt done and then go from there. He did suggest clomid. SO on Monday I will make my appt with the dr for the middle of the month and go from there. Do think this weird cm was my body's pathetic attempt at a period? Have a great weekend everyone! Think happy thoughts! ....and God said, "Go make babies....." or something to that effect!