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Hi everyone! how's everybody doin...?still enjoying your weekend? kc you did a very good job explaining...Hi D...Ann was right it was not a stupid question, your question was not that clear enough but i know with kc's explanation your question was answered. Just check'in all of you...talk to ya all later...

Hi all,

No question is a stupid one around here - the female cycle is SO complex..best to be as informed as possible. :) I'm afraid that I'm needing to vent today girls. This last weekend has all been about my sister in law's pregnancy (brothers wife). We spent much time with them and the baby/mat leave/pregnancy/baby names etc. is ALL they could talk about! Arrrggh! It's so frustrating! YES, I'm happy for her but man-oh-man! I'm not kidding - it was like the ONLY thing anyone could talk about! They all know that dh and I have been trying for well over a year now and they seem to have NO sensitivity whatsoever. Watching my dh put his hand on her belly to feel kicking was just more than I could bear. I wished so much we could be having that experience too... :( Sorry to be a downer, I'm just feeling sorry for myself today. Sometimes it feels like it'll never happen and other days I'm very positive. Please ladies, let's one of us get a BFP this cycle ..I want to hear that one of us succeeded, I think it'll cheer me up and remind me that it's possible... Take care and baby dust to all! ~~~~~~~

Hi NatashaV.....i think that is a pretty normal reaction from you...i know how you feel and that would be a little uncomfortable situation but don't loose hope and don't give up...Always remember that you have to be positve and always think that you will get pg in your own time. I also went through a lot of situations like that My bestfriend had 4 children already...me still nothing....me and my officemate decided to get pg at the same time but she already gave birth 3 months ago. And most of our friends would ask when are we gonna have a baby???....It seems so hard and people around you were all pg except you.It's normal that you feel that way but you have to be strong and patient i know if not all of us will get pg i know one of us will have a BFP this month and that will give us hope to continue this journey....To all...i was your weekend...well this is the start of our waiting game. most of us is in 2WW this week and hopefully we all get BFP!!!!GOD BLESS!!!!

I'm sorry i mean how was your weekend ladies? i typed it incorrect....have a nice week and hopefully we will share some good news by next week.

Hi everyone, I had a nice weekend. I Od' yesterday. My dh and I had only one opportunity this month to bd. But, it only takes one time:). >>>Natasha, sorry about your weekend. I know how insensitive people can be. Four days after I miscarried we had a breakfast baby shower for one of my coworkers. I sent a gift, but did not attend. One of my "friends" came down to find me. She couldn't understand why I wasn't at the party. It was all I could do to get myself up and dressed in the morning. Then I would go to work and try to hold it together all day. What I don't think people understand is that we think about this all the time. When someone talks about their kids, babies, pregnancies, it hurts. It is not that I expect everyone to tiptoe around me. Just to have some common courtesy. Hang in there. It will happen for all of us.

We're going to an RE this week---excited about the consult, a little scared about the action plan. My parents are coming into town on Wednesday and I'm going to tell them why they don't have any grandchildren yet--I feel as if my mother should know, that way she knows how to be a little more sensitive on the matter--wish me luck. No +OPK for me yet this month....but who knows maybe I'll O later than the "norm"

Hi Girls! Natasha V. I'm sorry about your weekend. I had a bad weekend with my sister-in-law also. I'm just glad she had her tubes done. She had a b-day party for her yougest son 1year. She also has a 22 month old (yep she had babies 10 months apart) and an 8 year old. The part that upsets me about her is she doesn't take care of them. They are always dirty and hungry. The youngest was in a bassinett until he was 10 months old because she was too lazy to walk upstairs and care for him when he cried. The toddler was sleeping in a playpen for the same reason. Now the toddler is sleeping upstairs in a crib and the baby is in the playpen. The sad thing is she has 2 new cribs which have hardly been used. The only time she says anything to the 8 year old is to scold him. So he act up on purpose for attention. They sleep all day and are up all night. She even has the 8 year old on that schedule during the school year. He takes a nap from 4pm to 9 pm and stays up till around 3 am sleeps until 7 and goes to school. She wonders why he has a rough time in school. These are only a few issues I have with her. Every chance I get I take the kids to fill their bellies and give them a good bath. It's very difficult to see mothers not taking care of their children. It's even harder when it's family.

I thought since we are pretty much in our 2ww we can let out our ttc peives. Mine are: smoking while pg or around children and lazy parents. Nans did you want to start a cycle buddies 2 since this one is getting pretty long?

Hi kc....yeah i think it's about time that we make another cycle buddies thread.....if everyone will agree.....so ladies what do you think? just let me know and we will create a new one.

Nans - I would love to join you all if you don't mind. I've read this thread and feel like I'm really beginning to connect and would love to share with someone. I'm trying for my 2nd but my 1st took over a year and a half and I'm terrified. That was extremely exhausting emotionally. Please let me know if you start a new thread.

Thanks for your understanding and support, Ann, kc, Nans and the rest. I think the problem is that when you're talking to a pg person, you have to act like it doesn't affect you (smiling, happy for them, asking questions) because you don't want to take away from their beautiful experience - that wouldn't be right. So, you bottle up your feelings and then you just feel worse later. I'm glad I have you ladies to talk to - it really helps. Nans, once again you prove to be the 'rock' of us all - thank you for your positive words, you already sound like a very caring mother... :) Kerri, good luck with your RE and your Mom, she's bound to be more sensitive when she hears what a tough time you're having. kc - I can only imagine how frustrating it is to watch your sil, maybe witnessing it will in some way help you be an even better parent? I'm curious..I assume RE is a fert. specialist? (don't know that term) Welcome Clara! Please let us know Nans if you're starting a new post and if you're calling it something other than cycle buddies 2. I hope these 2 weeks go quickly and prove to be successful for at least one of us! C'mon ladies - let's do it! LET'S GET PG!!! :) ~~~ Baby Dust~~~

Natasha - I pray for you to have the strength and patience to deal with friends and family. The whole time I was trying for my first, everyone kept asking when was I going to have a baby. It takes a great deal of strength to keep positive.

I guess I'm a blabbermouth today..more from me! :) I was wondering - anyone else not telling too many people about ttc-ing? And if so..why? I've been keeping it from a lot of people that we're really 'trying' - those that know think we're just 'leaving it to god' and not really 'trying'. I think that deep down I'm a) afraid of everyone knowing I'm a 'failure' and b) don't want people to feel sorry for me and c) wondering if I'm meant to be a mom ..I think I'm not on fertility drugs or doing more testing because I don't want to force it if it's not meant to be for dh and I. But at the same time, I feel like I really want it (even though I am a little scared by the responsibility and huge life change). I guess I just wonder if I'm the only one feeling this way...thoughts? I just want to say one more time that I'd LOVE to read about a BFP from one of you ladies..if I pray for it, maybe it'll happen...

NatashaV-RE stands for Reproduction Endocrinologist--he's also an infertility specialist. But I'm mainly seeing him b/c I'll be working with his nurse Linda frequently...and Linda is sooo sweet...she used to be the nurse at my OB/GYN--she left his office in June to strictly do fertility nursing. We're justing wanting to find out all of our options--meds, no meds., we firmly believe in the Lord's timing. I know that He has the best timing for a family for us to bring the most glory to Him. Patience can be sooooo hard when everyone around me is pregnant--at least the girls at work aren't showing yet---I kinda forget that they're pregnant sometimes. I think a new thread would be a great idea.

Nans- Just a quick note to say that I think a new thread is a good idea too.

hi i skippedf a period in july my lmp was july 1st,since then on the 15th i had spotting but it was brown then it went,then on sunday 28th i started to spot but it was difrent this time it is pink and only there when i wipe.i am getting cramps could this be ib? and the spotting i had before was ovulation spotting? i have done a hpt but was neg on sunday.i havnt had a period since july 1st though and i missed 1 which should have been july 24th and then 4 weeks after i missed that i got brown spotting for 2 days and now im spotting again for 2days. i havnt come off any b/c i have been having a period every month. they are a little irregular but i can track them then this month it all goes weird. do you think this could be ib? i have sore boobs mild cramps and a bit of backache.

Hi ladies....since most of you agree to have a new thread then i'll be making a new thread "Cycle Buddies 2"....May and Clara, welcome to the thread...May it sounds like IB to me...hopefully you are pg this month. NatashaV...like you i'm not telling to everybody that we're TTC coz i think it adds to the pressure and stress when most of your family and friends know that your TTC and it's taking so long...they will keep asking...when are you gonna be pg.Just don't think you are a failure...we have time of our own.