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Ann, I hope you are wrapped up w/ work and unable to post. I worry about you when you go missed for awhile! Nothing new going on w/ me..I have Lupron AF..Normal, but for some reason today I just feel very drained. Hope you are well.

Sorry that I had to disappear w/o any warning. Usually, I can sort of see it coming. The second half of this week has been terrible at work. I worked until 9pm on Wednesday and Thursday and I had to be at two clients' offices (hard to get on internet). This (Saturday) morning, I have been dealing w/some issues regarding one of our staff people. In my opinion, the issues are unreasonable, annoying, and not necessary. I think this person should basically suck it up and just do his job instead of whining and complaining. I certainly don't need the stress of it after I've done tons of extra work this week!!! Ok, I am done venting.:) Yes, San Antonio is very cheap to live in. I have a friend that moved there after law school, because he works for a national firm and they pay the same salary there as in DC! Nice!! But, I am sure you wouldn't enjoy living there as much. Dallas is very cheap, too. Plus the Dallas economy is great. We have a 2,800sf house w/a pool in one of the best school districts in the state, and it is not expensive at all! Personally, I want a smaller house. We have too much wasted space. I would like to have about 1,800sf and be out of the burbs, as you know!! Did you start all the other stim meds yesterday? Sorry to hear about the lupron af. I hope you are feeling better now. I think the injection time is exciting, but it is also very tiring and emotional. Luckily, it will be over soon and you can move on to getting all your nice eggs!! Let me know how you are doing.

They are working you like crazy! Dont they understand pregnant woman need lots of rest!! Sorry to hear that, working a lot is hard enough without trying to make another human in the process!! You do have a big house. I am like you, I guess because I have always lived in "normal" sized houses and then when I moved out, into small apartments, so I like smaller houses. I did start my stims on Friday. All was going well, and then yesterday I woke up sick, and throwing up all day. Dh and I had the same foods on Saturday so he was fine. Only thing I could think of was the high dose of Menopur, but Im not sure why it would make me sick..Anyway, feeling better today, but annoyed at the loss of a weekend day. From here on out, its all going to go fast, which is fine by me! I have a RE appointment Wednesday and Friday, u/s and b/w on both, and Im excited to see how many follies I have on both days, and the difference between 2 days. Just hope Im responding well. My cousin is coming on Wednesday and I have 4 or 5 days off in a row, and looking forward to that to. If all goes well, next week I will have ER and ET! It does go fast. A few of the girls on the IVF thread have run into some problems and issues, and that makes me nervous. At any rate, Im doing good. How about you?? How are you feeling and doing?

How are you feeling today?? Better I hope. That is great the stimming is underway. Hopefully, you just had a little 24-hour virus or something. Good luck at your appt tomorrow. Fingers crossed for lots of good follies! People at my work couldn't care less if you are pg, sick, or have any other personal issue!! That is one bad thing about here--they just want you to work and work. I can't afford to complain about anything w/being pg, or I will end up as being viewed as on the "mommy" (slow) track for pay and promotions. Oh well. I haven't been keeping up w/the ivf thread w/work being so crazy. What issues have they had?

Hi Ann...Has worked slowed down at all for you? I hope it has. Im sure you need a breather by now. Its awful that pregnant woman feel the way you do, about complaining, etc. I have a few g/f's who went through the same thing. Its almost like pregnancy is viewed as a disability of sorts to some employers. I am feeling better today. It was weird, whatever it was, but Im glad its gone. Thanks for the crossed fingers. I need all the help and good thoughts I can get! There are two on the IVF thread who are ahead of me..One had cysts on both sides (I think both sides) which formed during stims I guess. She wasnt on bcp's prior to her cycle start, so I dont know if it had anything to do w/ that...She also only had 3 follies or so, and they thought they would have to cancel the cycle due to both issues. After a day or so she went back and had many more follies, but they told her they werent sure they could retrieve on one side due to the cyst. I dont know what her update is. Another had 30 follies! They were worried about her overstimming, and thinking of not doing ER or ET. I know she ended up having ER but they dont think they will be able to ET until she calms down inside I guess. How stressful for them both!

I just did my catch up (sort of) on the ivf thread. I hope Twiggy can retrieve. She sounds really on edge. I used to talk to her on a post, but she dropped off w/the ivf start. I don't know elles. That is good that she will likely have so many to freeze, since the freeze and thaw can be tough on the embies. Unfortunately work is still pretty bad. I want to sleep!! I about kicked my dh's a** last night, too. Dh called to ask me if I wanted to make this Mac n Cheese w/peas and ham that I make for dinner sometimes (i.e. I cook and he buys the groceries). I didn’t really feel like cooking but said sure. He took dss to football practice last night. So I called him on my drive home to make sure he remembered all the groceries. He said he didn’t make it to the store but would get them on his way home. Practice ends at 7:30, so I would have groceries by 8 and takes an hour to make. I said I didn’t want to eat dinner at 9 (by end of day, I am starving). THEN, he asked if I would “just go to the grocery store.” I thought, “Are you kidding me? I have to drive downtown, work a long hectic day, drive all the way back to BFE burbs, AND go to the grocery store AND cook???” Then he said he would pick up Chinese food on his way home. I wanted the other thing after all this so I went to the store and made it. I was so mad, though. We had a talk last night about how he needs to take initiative w/dinner. I feel like I have to do everything sometimes. I would be fine w/working less and pitching in more at home, IF he could make up the income difference (impossible). Sorry to go on such a rant!! How are you feeling? I am glad you aren't sick anymore. Are the meds going ok? Any side effects?

Men! Humphff!! We had that exact same issue and problem happen a lot before I started working from home. I had an hour (plus) commute one way, and my dh had a 5 minute "commute" both ways! It would infuriate me to no end, to have him call me on my cell phone, while Im sitting in traffic, and he had been home for an hour, wondering what we were going to have for dinner..Umm..How about, figure it out for yourself! That question is no longer allowed in our house! Im serious..Its either have a decision made, or something in mind to suggest, or dont ask! Same goes for me, especially since I work from home now. Im sorry you had to deal with that..Is not working your ass off enough!!? Hey-at least you had the dinner you wanted, even though it was late. Im feeling ok..Still having headaches from the Lupron (have been on it since 7-26) and can feel the pressure on my ovaries, but thats a good sign that things are working. How are YOU feeling??!

That is exactly what happens to me on my drive home. My usual response is "Go pick up ____." Sometimes i would just like to not even have to think about it!! At the same time, often times I am craving this or that (even when not pg), so maybe my dh is just in a lose/lose situation sometimes! I feel fine--no changes. I am still really tired towards the end of the day, and that is the hardest thing for me. I weigh every Wednesday. I have gained 4lbs now. My book says you should gain 4 in the first 12 weeks, and I am in week 11, so I think that is pretty close to on track! I am sorry to hear about your headaches. Luckily, the Lurpon will be done very soon! I can't wait to hear about your follies today!! I hope your appt is early and they gave you a guess on the ER date!

Hi Ann..Its late here, and Im tired. My cousin is visiting, and we had a long day. Tomorrow she wants to go wait in line in LA to try to get tickets to the Jay Leno show, and we need to wake up @ 5:15. UGH!!! I can think of a million other things I would rather be doing! My u/s went really well today, my RE counted 9 follies over 8 mm and about 15 total w/ the smaller ones under 8 mm still growing and brewing. She expects to see more on Friday. She seemed happy w/ my response, and so I left feeling good. As long as I have enough for a cycle, I'll be happy (after fertilization of course)...My dose of meds stayed the same, and Im bloated!! I can feel my ovaries all the time now..All for a good cause I hope. Tonight we did Gonal F in the pen, and it almost seemed too easy compared to having to mix the Menopur.
Im glad you are feeling well..4 pounds, it seems so little in such a long period of time. I think I can gain 4 pounds just by looking at certain foods! I'll try to chk in tomorrow, but if not, I will on Friday w/ my u/s update. I hope you are not being overworked still! (and that your dh has planned some dinners!) : )

I am so glad you posted. I was getting worried!! I checked my Blackberry numerous times last night to see if you had posted (although I wouldn't have been able to read it due to the length of this thread!). That is SO great about your follies!!! It looks like you will have LOTS! I am so happy for you. I hope you don't get too uncomfortable with the bloating and stimming. Things are not so great w/my dh. Night before last dh made dinner, and he ate w/o me before I got home (didn’t expect him to make dss wait but thought it would’ve been nice if he would've waited for me, especially considering I got home only 30 minutes later). I said something about it, and then we ended up getting into a discussion about how I don’t feel like he does enough, not sure what his priority is (house/family or work or something else). And I said that he was lucky to have such a flexible schedule and get to go to all of dss' stuff (unlike most dads). I also told him that I would be happy to not have my job as priority #1 but that it would mean we would all be living in my car. This was all on the phone as I was driving home. After I got home, I sat and ate cold dinner at the table by myself. We didn’t really get in a fight or anything, so I wasn’t mad at all. He ignored me the rest of the night. I fell asleep before he even came to bed. I am so stressed w/that screening stuff come up, having no energy, the house (needing to sell it and finish working on it), how we are going to swing this financially…and I feel like I am the only one concerned w/it (and the only one that will be trying to work it all out). And to top it off, these stupid hormones are making me so emotional. I start to cry about 10x/day. I can't tell if the hormones are making me overreact to everything now either. I realized yday that he was still ignoring me (usually he calls at least once during the day). So, I decided to not call him. He called me on my commute home and asked why I didn't let him know I was leaving. I told him it was because I realized that he was ignoring me for some reason, so I wasn't going to contact him either. Last night he tried to be normal, but I refuse to get back to normal until he says what is on his mind and discusses everything. We will see what happens this evening. I didn't feel like getting into it last night or this morn, but I will probably tell him that he has to communicate to fix this tonight!! Communication is not his strong point (not unusual for most men I've known). I have LOTS and LOTS of will power and can wait this out as long as it takes.:) We hardly ever fight. I guess that is why it took me a while to even recognize it! Well, hmmm, Jay Leno show. I can't say that I would enjoy that either, but I hope you have a fun visit anyway! Post when you can. Good luck on Friday!

Sorry for that super long post...I forgot to tell you about Elyse--the woman that got pg from ivf the first time. She transferred 2 5-day blasts and is pg w/twins!!

Well, my NT test went very well. My measurement was 1.7--SO happy it is below 3!!! The most exciting part is that the baby was asleep (lying on back) and the dr is pretty sure it is a boy!!! You can see the perfect little outline of the you know what "boy" part. I don't see how it could be wrong. I hope you are doing well and having fun w/your company. Let me know how you are doing!! I assume you've had an u/s recently.

Ann-A BOY!!! Congratulations!! And congrats on your NT test coming back fine. Yay!! Im so happy for you, and maybe for now, for a short amount of time, you can feel relieved and feel happy. Wasnt it so wonderful to see your baby??! When do you go back? How are you feeling? I bet your DH was really happy too! What great news to log on to!! Im assuming by now, things w/ your DH have been resolved. I too, sometimes feel that I am the only one concerned w/ finances, etc. Sometimes I wonder if its just me, and how I am, or because I am a girl, and we worry about stuff like that. I think men do too, but they dont vocalize it as much. Im sure being pregnant, and having out of whack hormones doesnt help either. All valid points you have, but maybe because you are pregnant, had been working long hours, exhausted, tired, stressed, it all came to a head. I hope things have gotten better. My DH and I dont have big fights often either, and when we do, it really upsets me. My cousin is gone. We had a great time, but she really kept me on my toes. It was nice to make the time pass so quickly. My ER went well yesterday, 22 eggs. Of course all wont be mature, and all wont fertilize, but I promised myself I would be happy with anything over 15. My RE will call today with the fertilization results, and then we will have ET on Friday. I would rather be doing a 5 day blast transfer like your friend did who is pregnant with twins, but my RE keeps telling me due to my age, it isnt necc. I dont know what age has to do with a blast tx, and it is sort of bugging me. I know she thinks I am young, but that doesnt mean I wouldnt benefit from a 5 day. After we transfer on Friday, Im going to ask about the lab, because Im wondering if they dont have good stats for a 5 day blast due to the lab. If I get a bfn this time, next time I am going to push to have a 5 day blast transfer and refuse a day 3. It just seems from what I have read, the success rates are higher for blast transfers, although I guess plenty get bfp's from 3 day. Anyway-Want to get this posted, between trying to catch up at work, this post has taken almost an hour!

OMG, CC, you already had your ER!!! I can't believe it. Wow, 22 eggs. You could have lots fertilize. When they freeze them, do they have to be 5-day? My friend on the board Elyse started bleeding last night and had to go to the dr. It is touch and go whether she will still have a twin pregnancy or not. I feel so bad for all that she is going through. How did the ER go? Are you feeling ok? When will you have an update on your eggs? Yes, everything is fine w/dh now. He has been taking care of dinner.:) I still need to figure out exactly what his problem was, but I just haven't felt like getting into it! I am so glad you are back.:)

Im glad Im back too! Its funny, but I missed you! I hope I do have a lot fertilized. I have a feeling though, because they took out so many, that some werent mature and the fertilized number may be much lower then I expect. Its ok though. Im happy if we just have 5 good quality embies, to transfer some, and freeze the others. My clinic does a 3 day freeze, which is what made me think their lab isnt the greatest. Why not wait another 2 days and then freeze at blast? They would be freezing less, and better quality right? I dont know...All places do things differently I guess. Its what I have to work with for now. The ER went well. I was so focused on not getting sick when I woke up, since thats usually my experience, I never thought about the pain afterwards! It was uncomfortable, but not unbearable. I came home, ate, slept, and woke up feeling much better. Today Im tender and sore, still slow getting up and down, and bloated/swollen, but for the most part, feeling good. RE will call today w/ an update. Thats sad about your friend. Thats the hard part about multiples, you just never know I guess...Now, how are you feeling???!!!

I totally missed you, too! Then yday, I started thinking, "Is she ok? Did she have a bad reaction to the meds?" and all the other worry things. I am glad that everything went so well. That is odd about the freezing. I thought the labs wanted to freeze 5-day blasts. I don't know for sure, though. Do you know if you overstimmed at all? I hope you didn't for once! I feel fine--nothing new. I am still super tired. I wish that would pass. I am so excited to know the likely gender. I thought I would have to wait for 2 more months! I am looking forward to my call from the fetal specialist tomorrow, too, so I will have the big pic of my risk assessment. I am planning to take off work tomorrow and Friday. I am going to do some work on our master bathroom--fun, fun. I also need to buy some more maternity clothes. So, I may work on the house Thursday, shop Friday, and work more over the weekend. What time is your appt on Friday?