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Good morning Ladies... Helen good luck today, can't wait for your post, we'll all be thinking of you. Tina- I totally agree with you, it happens to me all the time, in fact almost everyone that I know is either pg now or just had their babies, and then there's me. None of them ever stopped to think how DH and I feel when they tallk about all of their symptoms in front of us, and make jokes about us ttc, like we better get BDing, and it's our turn next!! They just don't understand that there is hardly a chance of that happening and that we MUST do IVF, as it is our last option. It's so hard to explain to the people who just don't have a clue. Of course my family and close friends understand for the ,most part as we have tried to explain it to them. Anyway enough about that, but I'm sure so many of you can relate... off to work, have a good day.

My girlfriend just found out that she is infertile. IVF won't even work with her eggs. She moved 4 states away and here I am pregnant and unable to tell her because I don't want to hurt her. I have read that keeping it from her will hurt her too. I just am so confused and heartbroken for her and all who struggle with infertility. My prayers go out to each one of you who are trying to have babies. May you be blessed very soon.

Hope everyone had a nice Valentines Day. I had a lovely meal with DH in Ironbridge overlooking the river. More romantic than the egg colllection I did last year! Accupunture was good. Tina - Hope you had a good Valentines Day meal too. Michele - Glad to hear you had a good break. Helen - Hope the scan has gone well today and you saw your little baby or babies for the first time. That first scan is so exciting. Jen - Hope your scan has gone well today too. Nikki - Hope your results were good on Monday. JC - Congratulations on your pregnancy and sorry to hear about your friend.

Hello all! All of these are feelings that are so hard. I go from being overjoyed when someone tells me they are preg. to feeling angry and bitter. The best thing is to be honest, but not in front of family and friends. Tell them alone and give them time to prepare. I know that I almost immediately get angry and feel like I will cry...but then the next day I am much better about everything. Helen-so happy for your P injections to be over!! Tina hang in there!! Do you ever feel like when will it be our turn?? Like what will you do if it doesn't happen?? I try not to dwell in the negative, but that does come up for me...Where are you in your cylce?? Jen, Where are you in your cycle again? Maybe we should start our emails by reminding everyone where we are since there are so many... I am still awaiting af....it's weird to look forward to it, but I can't start my next IVF cycle until it comes. I want you all to know that I am praying for all of us.

Hey everyone! Hope you are in good spirits! I'm trying to keep my head up! He transfered the embroyos yesterday. But I have been moody! Just pissed off at the world! I know how ya'll feel about others getting pregnant so easily. My sister tells me I'm crazy for wanting children, but she has no idea what I'm going thru! She has 3. and started very early in life! Now she wishes she had none! If she was in my shoes, she may appreciate more what the Lord has given her! But she has no idea! Well, I'm going to lay back down. I'll keep you posted! Take care ALL!

Hi Ladies....I know exactly what you mean about everyone around you getting pregnant. 4 of my best friends were all pregnant at the same time and then there was me. I couldn't even talk about it with them. I cried and cried thinking "that will never be me". To add insult to injury, I work at high school where at least 6 teenage girls are pregnant right now. Yikes... Even though my test results were positive last week, I still feel for all the women out there that are continuing to try. Nothing is harder than this and nobody truly understands unless they've been there and sometimes I find that even my friends that did go through it forget to easily how difficult it was, they just got all caught up in it and forgot about my feelings. I vowed never to be like that and to ALWAYS remember what it feels like to struggle to ttc. I have a friend at work that's been trying for 5 years, neither her or her husband have children yet and she's 37. When I got my good news...I was very sensitive and decided not to tell her. Sure I wanted to share my news but not at the expensive of hurting her. It's just too hard to hear something like that when you yourself are trying sooooo hard. So I felt the need to spare her the news. Hope I did the right thing. Anyway...I continue to pray for little miracles for all of you and am here if anyone who needs an ear...baby dust to all....keep the faith....

Hi Ladies,,,Thank you letting me vent and venting with me,,,It is so tough, and they will never truly know what us woman have endured thorugh this long and painful journey of infertility. I want to say thank you and most of I am proud of each one of you. I am so glad I have this site to go to and vent, share stories, advise others and just listen...it has truly helped my get through this all. Terry - how are you feeling? How many did you have transf'd? Drink plenty of water and eat proteins (peanut butter, chicken, etc),,,take it easy too. Justine - that is awesome you had such a nice night, we had a great dinner, and later DH gave me a nice body massage, it was dreamy! Hope all you ladies had a WONDERFUL V-day! Jen, how did your u/s go today, any more updates on the cyst, how are your cramping, hope you are feeling better...Mine, my estadiol level was ~400 and I have (2) eggs that are about 11mm,,,and several <10mm,,,so we are continuing lupron and follistim then have another u/s this Sat. Louisa, you made me laugh so hard, cow,,,omg, I am so sorry though you were told that way, that was so uncalled for and rude. You are so true about making us stronger. This whole thing has tested my limits and I am still here. All of us, we are still here trying! Michelle- I am so glad you had anice time away, you deserve it girl! 2 weeks away, How exciting! Amy/Nikki, how are you girls? thank you for venting w/me too.

Well.....guess I should update my situation. Because my lovely insurance does not cover ANY costs of IVF, we're trying to finance a portion of it. No big deal, because it's for a baby, but it's still hard. My doctor asked yesterday when I was going to contact the Inf. Dr. and I told her I have to wait because I'm in the process of trying to transfer jobs and won't know anything for the next month or two. She just kinda sighed and said I need to let her know, because if I get it, and have to wait a while to start IVF, then they may have to put me on hormones to surpress the endo from getting any worse. I'm like ok..........but then I started crying because this is just so hard. I need to try to get this other job because it doubles my salary. I'm a police officer so it's not like I'm in it for the money but when the chance comes to make more, I'd be a fool not to take it. Plus, it's hard at my job because I see all the people who abuse their children and I ask, "Why, why me?" "Why does someone get this chance and abuse it when I can do so much better and not had a chance yet?" There's a chance I'm going to get it but there are a lot of people with a butt load of experience in for it too. I've a couple years. Then, the doc gave some info about when the process is started, how I have to rest and all this. I'm like, ok, but it's not that easy with my job. Her assistant asked why I just didn't quit and let my dh be the breadwinner. I wish I was in their la-la land where everyone makes enough money to do that....lol I just said I will have to do the best I can. The department I work for, I'm the only female officer, so I don't have too many people that understand what's going on. All the secretarys have kids or are having them...so it sucks when they invite you to the showers. I guess that's the jealous part of me. Sorry guys....just had to bitch early in the morning.
Oh...to whomever "well," is......YES, we will be shouting it from the roof tops because it took so long and hard to get pg. Heck, some of us might forget about being sensitive around others too. BUT...I agree that sometimes people should have a little class when announcing things in front of others who are struggling. I get sad when someone announces it BUT I've been lucky at times where they have told me before the announcement and offered a hand after the announcement. I don't want them to tip-toe around me because a baby IS a miracle, expecially for those of us who are trying so hard. Others just forget, or say they know when they don't, what we are going through and what it does to one's self-esteem. Until you are in our place, them I'm sorry but your words mean nothing to us. You know "well,", I worked a case where this teenager hid her pregnancy from her parents, never took any vitamins or anything, for the whole term. She had the baby in the toilet at home, wrapped it in plastic and buried it alive. We looked for the body but we believe it was taken by coyotes. All of us here would never have thought of doing that. All of us going through this value life and know what a miracle it is. We are happy for those who become pg but there will always be sadness until that can be filled. Many of us would adopt those babies so they would not get hurt. Maybe you can learn a little lesson in class and take other's thoughts into consideration. Ladies, sorry if what I wrote upsets you but I wanted to put that out there for all the idiots that are going to come on here and write things to get us to comment on. ***Baby Dust to all***

Oh...sorry for it being so loooooooooong

Jaqi - Iam pulling this from a previouse post - hope this helps...You should check with your HR dept if they have an insured or non-insured plan or not,,, Most insurances are starting to cover fertility. I live in Mass and it is being covered by Blue Cross Blue Shield. Some insurances have guidelines as well, like we needed to try 3 medicated IUIs before we were able to try IVF (also depends on your medical situation). I believe you need to meet certain criteria in order to begin right on IVF (low sperm count, blocked tubes,etc). My employer has a non insured insurance plan, which in Mass, even though the company might not select fertility as an covered item, by law, blue cross blue shield is required to cover it. I know a friend of mine also did not have that option w/her insurance, it was a self insured plan, and she was able to borrow against her 401k as a hardship and did not have to pay back the taxes on it. I know some places have great financing options as well. Good luck! :-)

You know 'well' - I think you need to find another site to go to, we are all here to support one another and occasionally people vent about their feelings. I have read the replies to your post and it clearly states, we are not being negative or jealous, we are simply envious. And the stories that have been posted are because of people being ignorant to other people's feelings. Infertility is such a sensitive subject and if you are not here to be supportive and caring, then PLEASE LEAVE!

Tina - Glad to hear you had a great Valentines Day too. Hope the scan goes well on Saturday. Helen - Hope the scan went really well yesterday. Michele - I think everyone who goes through IVF worries about it not working for them. I never thought it would work for me but it did and I really believe it will work for you. You had lots of good embryos last time which is a very good indication. Terry - Glad to hear you've had the embryo transfer - hope you're pregnant now. How many did you have transferred? Lisa - Hope everything is going well for you and your little baby girl. Jaqi - Sorry to hear you having a hard time. You should go for that promotion - telling you to stop working is bad advice I think. Having a good career was one thing that helped me get through things otherwise I'd just have sat at home worrying all day.

Hey girls. I've been trying to stay in bed and relax, but I find myself fighting myself to stay there. How long should you stay lying down after they tranfer the embryo?

Hey girls. I've been trying to stay in bed and relax, but I find myself fighting myself to stay there. How long should you stay lying down after they tranfer the embryo? Tina, the dr. got 5 out of my right ovary, but didn't bother to touch my left one, seeing that I am always sore on that side. He tranfered 3.

Terry - I rested for 3 days after the transfer though my clinic said it wouldn't help (In their research people who rested actually had worse pregnancy rates). It made me feel like I was doing something useful though! And I got pregnant more importantly.

Hi everyone! I'm always amazed how far behind I get on posts when I don't have time to check in for a day or two. Hope everyone had a wonderful valentine's day! Tina and Helen- My cyst is gone!! I couldn't believe it, but after all this worrying it apparently just dissolved!! My RE kept me on the same doseage of Follistim and Lupron and I go back tomorrow morning for another u/s. I have two follicles that are just slightly over 10 and then many on both sides that are less than 10. So, Tina it sounds like we're still doing pretty much the same cycle!! Thanks everyone for the words of support and let's keep our fingers crossed that we all have good news soon! As for this well, person...I don't know if I should even waste my time thinking about your insensitive words, but I like many others think you need some clarification. Here's the thing, none of us are asking anyone to tip toe around us and lessen the excitement of a pregnancy for anyone, what we are asking for is sensitivity. If you know someone is having a hard time ttc, give them your good news in private and give them a heads up...I promise we'll take it well, but we need time to process through everything. Springing your wonderful news on us in front of a large group is like getting the wind knocked out of you...you hurt and you want to cry, but you have to be tough. I have truly appreciated the way my 3 best friends have called me with their news and told me before they announced to everyone. I was able to stay positive for them on the phone, I had my good cry afterwards, and then I was able to move on being completely happy for them. Sorry to babble on and on, but as I said people just need to be sensitive to the feelings of those of us that have worked so long and hard for that baby with no luck. Sorry to end on a downer tonight! Take care all and keep us posted!