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Ginger, it drives me NUTTY!!! I would love to go to school and become a specialist. I really feel that ppl who have been through this are the best to help. If you don't mind my asking where in TX? My hubby and I are thinking of transfering to Wichita Falls next year. I am really scared of my appt this afternoon. I really think that my dr and I need to talk, I'm seriously concidering changing drs too, not to many options up here though. Thanks for the support and best of luck to you.
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I am in austin, TX. I am not sure how close that is to witchita falls though. I hear you when you say that your options are limited. I had such a bad experience with my RE (he performed the surgurical nightmare last year that I posted about earlier). After he sent me for an HSG without checking to make sure the stitches in my vagina had healed, and I started to bleed out on the exam table, I called his office and let him have it. I flat out questioned him: "What kind of dr sends a patient who just had internal bleeding (and a possible bleeding condition) to an HSG BEFORE making sure the stutures have dissolved?" He did not like me implying this, of course. Imagine a little 'ol me at 4'11' 27 years yelling at a full-on, middle-aged surgical MD. Sad thing he was yelling right back (real professional) and he even threatened that if I left his care, "no one would take my case." He was a jerk from the get-go and I should have trusted my gut feeling. His personality was abrasive. But being a woman, in need of care w/o a lot of options, I figured I needed him---jerk or no. In fact, upon our initial consultation he asked what I did, and when I told him I was a writer, he quickly corrected me…. a gynecologist does not “do a pap” they “perform a pap,”---he mockingly teased “so, you’re writer?”
Oh, if I only would have known that his tone of our first meeting would set the stage for our entire relationship, I would have thanked him for his services, walked out of his office, and never looked back.
As they say hindsite's 20/20.
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Hey there ladies. I have been reading these forums for a while now. I am 34 and ttc as well. I am on my second round of clomid, 2dpo hanging on for the 2ww. Yes-I do want 8 kids. Crazy I know. The first couple of kids was easy...I have been on fertility meds for the last 2 kids, and now again. I have PCOS and a thyroid disorder. I have always had problems (since a teenager). I didn't start AF until I was 21-3 months before I got married. In the last 3 years I have hemmoraged 3 times, had 4 d&c's and 1 miscarriage. While I would be satisfied with my wonderful kids that I have now, and I feel blessed that I have them-especailly since when I got married we did not even know if we could have kids at all....there is nothing like that deep feeling in your heart when you know you arene't done, or that someone in your family is missing. My heart goes out to all of you who are TTC #1. I don't really have any side effects with clomid-other than migraines, and cramping. I hope to get to know you all better. Good Luck to all of you ladies!
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I spent the next year enduring Dr. Jackass's post-op care (remember with the "partial" wall I still was not fully recovered). And it was the most awful year of my life. I had to see him once a month, and everytime I would have to see him I would start to hyperventilate. I could feel my BP and heart rate go up. It was awful. Finally, he threw up his hands and said that he could not help me anymore. I would need another surgery. The scar tissue and “remaining” septum are not improving much with the dilator treatments. He recommended that I see a couple of specialists in a few surrounding cities to see about a second surgery to remove the remaining septum. As I mentioned, the last specialist I saw in San Antonio discouraged surgery and recommended ttc instead.
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Ginger, thank you for telling me your story. I know how you feel. I am 4' 10 1/2 " if you believe it. I always feel as though they see me as a child instead of a well-informed woman. I am blessed with looking young, but in cases like this it's a nightmare. Your d. sounds like a total jerk and I really hope that you have better luck. I'm so sorry that you had to go through all of that. And IWANT8, I wish you the best of luck. I know that it must be hard for you too. I've had friends that have babies and then have trouble with #2 or #3. I'm sorry and good luck. I have to go now to get ready for my appt. Hopefully I don't kick him in the shins. I'll check in later.
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I hear you all when you talk about doctors. We are on Dr. #3. I love my doctor now - "3rd time is the charm". When we were first unsuccessful at conceiving our first doctor put me on the Clomid for 7 cycles and did not monitor me and I was new to this and uninformed, so I basically had 7 cycles that were a waste. When we went to a 2nd doctor (specialist this time), they just wanted our money and didn't even talk about doing surgery to see why I had bad cramps, missed periods, etc. Although they did monitor me while I did my final 4 cycles on the clomid and 2 failed attempts at AI was not their fault. Now this doctor was actually concerned and wanted to do the lap and lots of blood work right away. She is aggressive which I like, but understands the financial concerns. I wish everyone the best and we are all in this together whether we are ttc#1 or #3. It feels good to have others to share your frustrations, emotions and experiences with.
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Good luck with your appt mrshorse. I agree being small and looking young definitely can put you at a disadvantage. I had really had it with my doctors. Even after I related my surgical experience with my RE to my ob/gyn, I still felt so alone. I wanted validation and encouragement. I got neither. So, now with ttc upon us, I decided to find a new doctor. Thankfully, I found a doctor that is both an RE and an ob/gyn. 2-for-1! He can work with my fertility issues and still deliver a baby! I met withthe new doctor on Tuesday, and I can honestly say that I think he is the one. He was empathetic, friendly and he explained things to me. He didn't act like I was taking up his time like so many other docs do. He thouroughly examined me and remarked my partial septum did not look that bad (too bad it doesn't feel "not that bad"!). He caught a glimpse of “granulation tissue” (basically scar tissue in the vagina) about the size of couple of peas stacked on each other and decided that it had to go, stating that such an obstruction would continue to grow and could impede pregnancy. He dabbed it with liquid nitrogen and snipped it off. It was painful and unpleasant, and of course, I squirmed and tried to hold in the signs of distress, but he reassured me that “it had to be done.” He also gave me a transvaginal ultrasound. He remarked that my uterus looked good—nice shape and size (surgery a success in that regard). He saw my ovaries and said the left one looked healthy, but the right one looked a bit cystic. (Great, more issues.)
After considering all my history, he suggested that my husband and I should consider IUI. With my history of endometriosis, he was hesitant that I should be off birth control for more than six months (I've been off 4 months now), and an IUI would help “speed” things along. If this isn't our month. I think we will seriously consider th IUI next month.
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Laine, I do not go to an RE yet, still going to OB/GYN...but I did see Dr. Tjaden - he did my HSG, I really liked him alot, and my OB told me I would go see Tjaden once she thought she had done all she could do...we are trying to avoid the RE as my insurance does not cover any fertility stuff at all.... For those of you in TX, I was born in TX - Cleburne, right around Ft Worth! Most all my relatives other than my parents/brother/sister and thier families all live around Celburne/Hillsboro/Burleson/Ennis area.... Laine, hope your appt goes well... Ginger, Wendi sounds like you both found some drs you like...i was lucky and have liked my OB from the beginning.... Iwant8...I dont know what to say...I only want one and that is all I have ever wanted, I cant even imagine having 2 let alone 8, which of course scares me considering I am taking drugs that could possibly result in twins!! LOL Good luck!
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Kristi1, I too am working on #1, so I can't even concieve of 8! I guess there's just more to love! "twins", it sounds daunting, but, boy, wouldn't that be fun! :)
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My appt stunk.. I ended up starting to cry when talking to him, which only made me even more upset. He gave me another test, which ofcourse was neg. Then when on to tell me that I'm overreacting pretty much. I am so happy for you Ginger and Wendy for finding a dr. that you feel so good about. That is no easy feat so congrats. Kristi, Dr Tjaden is very good at what he does. He performed my lap in '02. The only problem I had with him was that he wanted me to do IVF as soon as I met him. I guess looking back he was right and I should have, concidering it's now '06 and that's my plan. So in the end he is one smart guy! Hopefully for you you won't have to wait to work with him and you will have a baby soon. I have to go now, my husband is taking me out to dinner and a little shopping. He knows what to do when I have a bad day. I feel for him though b/c he always has to pick me up when I'm broken. I'm scared that sometimes I'm unable to do the same for him. goodnight girls.
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Hey Ladies, I just wanted to pop in quick and tell Shawna...FUN FACTORY ROCKS!!!!! LUCKY KID!!!! We have a place called ITS A BLAST...same stuff but BIGGER!!! AND SHAWNA...If you dh is worried about you on the internet talking to us then dont tell him that I figured out you phone #. Wasnt hard....have decided that you will be my first call if I get a BFP in the day time or when I am in Saskatoon and need to FREAK MY FREAK. I am not a stocker just was gonna 'look you up' if I got up to Saskatoon by myself sometime. EVERYBODY else...HI there. I am CD7 of my 7th charting cycle (started charting in April)....Maybe 7 is lucky??? Glad to hear that I am not the only one who thinks that family comments can be sooooo rude and hurtful....even if they dont mean it that way. Well gotta go get the big kids to bed for the night...only 9 pm here so dont think it is 11 or 12...its not. Love yous all ( in different ways ). Shauna ( with a U )
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Laine, sorry to hear your appt did not go well. I think its great your dh is so supportive and can sense and understand when you are down... and I am sure you can return the favor if and when needed! I take it your dh was at McConnel here...my dh is in the Air National Guard here...was in the Navy for 4 years and now the Air Guard for 8 years.... I think you mentioned Wichita Falls in an earlier post...my dh had training there at some point, but I dont remember what he thought of the place, I will try to remember to ask him... Ginger, I really dont think I could handle twins! That frightens me something awful!! How funny... Shauna, you are a crack up! I am on cd13 today, and we were able to start bding yesterday with no problems..I am still a little tender in my abdomen, but other than that I feel pretty good... Shawna, Mel, Elena, hows it going?? Well, I am very busy again this week at work, so will check in when I can...Hope everyone is doing great!
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Hey, sorry it's been so long. BUSY weekend! I still can't get over how huge this thread has gotten! It was so tiny before and now it's close to impossible to remember who's who! Shawna, what's the latest on the pix from the wedding? Mrshorse, you know, I've thought the same thing about considering becoming a specialist myself. With all I've read up on it so far, I feel like I'm at least 1/4 the way there! Sometimes I swear I know more than my crazy docs! Too bad I don't want to go to med school! Ginger, that doc sounds like a nightmare! I'd be surprised to hear he'd never had complaints or lawsuits against him! Sorry you had to go through that, but at least now you know when to put your foot down! Welcome Iwant8! EIGHT!? WOW. :) Sound like you've had a crazy hard time with TTC too, but I'm so happy to hear you have at least 2 of your 8 so far! it's great to hear that even with difficulties like you mentioned, there's still hope, and twice, too! So, I had my doc appt on Fri and now not only am I taking Clomid and Estrace, but Metroformin and one other dextro-something I think it's called. I swear I feel like such a druggie popping all those pills! But hey, whatever works, right!? I'm CD7 today and the time for bding will be right when we're on a camp trip this weekend. We'll at least be on our boat docked in the water while everyone else is at camp in tents, so there's still hope! :) I sure hope this increased dose of Clomid works this time! WEll, happy Monday to you all. I'll try to check in more often so I don't fall behind as badly as this weekend. BabyDust!!!
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Kristi, my hubby is in the Air Force, he's been in for over 12 years. We were stationed at Mc Connell from '99 - Dec. '04. My dh did tech school and 7 level in Wichita Falls. Now we're concidering him teaching tech school there. Anything to get out of here. Can someone tell me what some of the abbreviations mean. Most of the I think I have figured out, but not all. Also, has anyone heard of blot clotting disorders and infertility. I have just found out that they cause early miscarriages in women by cutting off the air supply to the fetus. And since I have had multiple early miscarriages, I thought a test was worth checking into. I hope everyone has a good day and I'll check back later.
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What is the abb. for I'm starting today? I am starting today, so needless to say I'm not having such a great day. The cramping is horrible. I put in a call to my dr. I had stopped seeing the GYN a couple of monthes ago to take a break. But now I want to start going back. Which I guess means more follistem and u/s all the time. I didn't miss them, lol. Has anyone else taken follistem? We took it for about six monthes before.
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Laine, try this website, it lists a bunch of the abb and thier meanings... http://www.fertilityfriend.com/
HelpCenter/FFBook/ff_abbrev.htm
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If it doesnt work let me know and I will try to copy/paste it or something into here... But for your questions on what to call the first day would be cd1, meaning "cycle day" #1... hope this helps ;-) Mel, hope you have camping, just dont rock the boat too much, it might tip over!!! LOL
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