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GM all! Katt, there is another thread "Where is everybody from" (I think) which will give you places to use. We are so widespread. I'll bump it up.

Maren, sorry things have been hard for you. Are you using any type of opk? I have used sticks where you have to read the lines and clearblue easy. I like them both. I have tried BBT but it is not for me. I have a hard time remembering in the a.m. Or I am just lazy! LOL! We are all here for you. Have you had an HSG or had your tubes checked? Are they clear without blockages?
Do you know why you do not O? If you don't know the answer to those questions you may not want to start clomid until you do. I wish I remembered all the past posts but as you know we are a chatty bunch!

WOW! Go to sleep for one night and I feel like Ive missed a week. LOL! So much going on. First off sorry about the - natasha. Gkarenand Andy - Welcome to our thread. These are wonderful women and they are great friends to have. Thank you for all of your support with my recent tragedy. Katt- You go girl! What a great idea. I think that your book would do a lot to help other women out there who are just like us. Well its of to work for me. The last two days of school Yeah! I cant wait until I can have my break and finally relax. Babydust to all of you**~~~*~*~***~*** I will check in later.

Thank you poohbear, you are so sweet. I really appreciate the support you ladies give me. Welcome Karen and Andy, and welcome back Maren. Maren, do you usually have long cycles? I don't think it is that uncommon for women to ovulate later and have long cycles. However, if you really did o recently, AF shouldn't start for at least 10 days. If it's shorter than that you may have a luteal phase defect. If you chart you can show evidence of a short lp to your ob so they can help you. QUESTION: I guess this is pretty personal, but sometimes it really depresses me and I wanted to know if it's just us or what. Anyway, for DH and I our sex life has changed so much from when we were first married. I know it does for everyone somewhat, but it's the emotional part that has really changed. It used to be that we would hold each other and he would really share his feeling with me. He would tell me how much he loves me and say I was the best thing that happened to him... you know that sort of thing. Well, now he always just wants to go at it. He's grabbing at me and doesn't want to talk or have much in the way of foreplay (other than going right for the bb's, etc...) Anyway, if I even try to talk to him about our love for each other, he gets annoyed, turned off and says forget it. If we spend too much time hugging, kissing, etc he'll suddenly say it's getting late and get up like i'm just wasting his time. I don't understand it. I don't think he knows (don't know if he cares) how much this hurts me. Does he not feel able to share feelings with me like he used to or does he just not love me like he used to? I don't know what I've done to make him like this and I don't know what to do to make it better. It's been going on for awhile. It's funny, I just read today in TCYOF the paragraph that says "most women view lovemaking as an emotional and intimate experience, not just a physical act. So women tend to get aroused if they feel trust and affetion in the hours and even days leading up to intercourse. Men, on the other hand, ten to place more importance on the visual and other stimuli at the actual time of sexual interaction". I've told him something along those lines before, but he just gets annoyed by it. It's not like he has to sit and talk with me for an hour b4 sex every time. I like to just get in and have fun sometimes too, but we NEVER are emotionally close like we used to be during lovemaking. Thanks for listening to my vent, sorry so long... what should I do?

Hey Ladies,
Hope I can join you too!! I've been trying aout 15 months still javen't gotten a BFP yet!! Just found out again I'm not pregnant!! I cried all day yesterday so feel a little better today!! I tried 3 cycles of clomid and IUI and then moved on to Repronex and IUI, I will be starting my 3rd cycle in June!! Now just waiting for AF to show up!!! Look forward to talking to everyone this month!!

Good Morning Girls How is everybody today??Katt how is book going? I can't wait to buy it and read it. Read about us all :) Amazing :) Once again it is great idea and will be helpful to all women ttc. ((((NicoleM)))) the other day I watched the show about it on TV. We are different than them! We are emotional and they are sometimes just action. I am sure he loves you the same and it is just a male thing. Unless you are suspicious about other things????Maybe something is bothering him at work, or who knows, or he is worrying about you ttc and wants to go strait to love making :) You are great girl and who wouldn’t love you! I am here with you for 2-3 months and I got so close to each and everyone of you. I feel like we are all here best friends! Or close family. Maren welcome back! Wannabemom my hubby is going tomorrow to give his sample for SA. :) Ahyhoo, hugs to all and talk to you later-HAVE A NICE DAY!

cmelissa WELCOME! WE ARE GLAD YOU JOINED US HERE! :)

cmelissa, I know how you feel. I hate not know what is going on with my body. I have been trying just over a year. But, I think what may be the problem is that my cycles are not regular. I think I ovulate either around day 14-16 and have a 30 day cylce or day 24-25 and have a 37 day cycle. The only time I had my progesterone checked the dr. said I ovulated, that was a 30 day cycle. Everytime I do have a 37 day cycle we haven't baby danced so late, when I am assuming AF is coming. I am going to try charting more consistantly before I get the clomid, and definatly have dh checked first. We are both young and healthy, I don't understand.
Nicole M, actually sometimes it is me that feels disconnected to my husband. If I stressed out sometimes he can seems so clingy. Lately I have felt clingy, it comes and goes, good luck to you. Maybe something is bothering dh. ??

Good morning ladies, at least it is still morning here in Seattle. I try to read up on everybodies lives every other day so although I may not post much, I love hearing about how everyone is doing. Nicole M. if you can, before you do your HSG, try taking a pain reliever. I took some codeine from a dental visit and it helped tremendously. Maybe your Dr. can get you some. I don't think I have a high pain tolerance, and with the med. I hardly felt anything. Also, when my DH had to get his SA, it took about 24 - 36 hrs. to get the results. then we had to do it again because of mixed results. Everything turned out fine, but it makes it awfully hard to BD when you have to wait several days between emmissions!! I'm feeling pretty good today. I had a big fight with my DH last night because while we were gone on a trip his dog peed all over our bedroom carpet which is 2 months old. I was irritated at him because he didn't seem to be bothered about the smell, just worried about the dog! That she was lonely without us. The smell is bad!! I think its because I have such a heightened sense of smell right now. Anyone have any good ideas or products that can get rid of the smell?

Welcomes to cmelissa! Kelley, it was Hope who started March. There are quite a few who have dropped off. DH won't read this and if he does it doesn't really matter does it? EH I have shed tears, it's all good really. I can only do what I can do and any harsher approach would just cause more termoil. Maren, hang in there girl, you'll get it. Even with charting I haven't quite "got it" LOL It's a lot to take in. Kelley hadder-down-pat as she only charted 1 month after reading TCOYF!! On the book topic, y'all have to realize these things take TIME so you'll have to bear with me as I may pop some outlandish questions your way from time to time, hehe;) Oh and I think we're all gonna be living in the same city as I am not sure I am using the internet as a meeting ground; though I am not yet sure. We'll see how it plays out. I like the idea of a pg vacation ending, but I can't put the cart b4 the horse and I don't write like some, in that I don't use outlines and things - I just start and keep on going. The rest is up to the rewrite, etc.. Wannabemom, I am doing the pain staking copy/pasting so if y'all want a copy when I am done just hollar! Leslie,, just get some "spot shot" I think its called, then use baking soda once the yellow is outta there. Okay I will be right back as I have much to say to Nicole. See ya in a few.

Just thougth I'd let you in on something cute. Told my better half that I needed to get a bbt, he was so cute, he is actually excited about doing all of this with me. He says it's kinda weird because his ex-wife never discussed anything with him, much less charts and o'ing and af. He has never had kids, neither have I so this is kinda neat and weird all at the same time, he's almost as into it as I am (the charting and cycles). So much I didn't know until I got here! Oh and with the carpet, baking soda is great (we had a dog one time) and febreze is good for getting rid of odor's too.

Nicole, I have to ask how long you two been married? I am on my second marriage and I have to tell ya, though all men are different, they are one in the same. And just like women their brains can get in the way. in both my marriages it started all sexed up etc and then it just came to a screaching halt - the foreplay, the connection. Granted in my first marriage I went out and got him a subscription to playboy! I was the downer, I had gained weight and didn't feel like it. Then once I did, he didn't. It went on like that for over a year I'd say. We later decided that once a month we'd rent a room somewhere (even if it was down the street) and forget about the outside world. We bought games and movies, lol. We brought it back to life as best we could. We even cranked the stereo sometimes and did it on the floor next to the subwoofer - that was always fun! I guess my point here is, if you feel the attraction go ahead and put on that sexy thing and let him have his fun and to get him riled over foreplay, would he be open to those sex games? Talk about puttingon the WAIT! Okay, on a totally different spectrum, my current DH is suffering from ED right now and most of it is out of WORRY - Worry that he can't perform, that he can't get it up, that his swimmers are bad, worry that i might leave him cause he can't get me pg, worried that the lump under his arm could be cancer...I agree with Na in that a man's mind is simple and when we or he starts too add too much it is overwhelming. Men like to FIX IT and if they can't they crawl into a hole and mope! We want them to listen, not fix so best not to get too deep until he's ready;) The trick, mind you, is making all of this HIS IDEA...but thats a lesson for another day, jk I am sure you know hoe to do that? Am I making any sense? Ya free my mind and the English goes out the window, lol!

um obviously, hoe is HOW!

Thanks Katt and Natasha - I'm sorry I was so whiney this am, but I do feel a lot better after venting it all. DH has always had trouble sharing emotions. In the beginning he was really open with me, but then life happens and he has been pretty distant that way for awhile. We've been married 5 years. He definitely doesn't talk to anyone else about whatever goes on in his head/heart, but doesn't share with me anymore either. He always has one stress or another going on in his life. 1st was med school, then residency, now more board exams. I take care of everything else so he can concentrate on work. This past year has been especially hard b/c his brother commited suicide in September. When that happened he opened up to me for about a week, then he shut down again and just dove into work. It's not like there is no affection or that he doesn't say he loves me, but he just doesn't let me know what's going on inside like he did in the beginning. It makes him uncomfortable. His family is like that though. He doesn't like being vulnerable to anyone - went thru a lot growing up... I just don't know why he could be open in the beginning and not anymore? I do think you're right though, Katt. I can't force it or it makes it worse. I'm just going to try to be loving and patient (that's the hard part) and see what happens. I really miss the closeness we used to have. Well, I'd better go, but thanks so much for everything ladies - you always make me feel better!

Hi there girls.My name is Rhonda and im ttc.I just got off my af this month(what a bummer)so lets see what june holds for me.Is it okay if i join your group?I am 30yrs old by the way.Also i am trying to quit smoking and i need some encouragement girls.

Good afternoon ladies I wanted to check in and will catch up and read all the posts later tonite. I started accupuncture today for infertility. The woman I am seeing has 12 pregancies under her belt in 2 years!!! I think that is awesome. So I am pretty excited to see what happens. Also have an RE appt tomorrow CD12 hopefully good levels and follicles. Anyway gotta go DH is taking me and my son out to dinner. Tonite and tomorrow are my wonderful days off. Anyway I will read your posts later to catch up. xooxoxo