When do you seek Medical help for Infertility?
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Meighen N. - February 22

Hi everyone, this is the first time I am posting a question. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 6 months now... and negative:( I have tried following the ovulation calandar, taken ovulation tests, the tests are saying I am ovulating. What is the next step? Do I go and speak with a Doctor? My family/friends are telling me I am thinking too much. But my husband and I are so excited to conceive! That is all I can think about. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated:)


Mega - February 22

Hi Meighen. You're doing everything right, just keep on keeping on with the OPKs, &/or charting BBT. That's good that you do O. So I'm guessing then that your cycle is pretty regular. As a general rule if you're under the age of 35, drs want you to try 12 mos. before seeking help, reason being if both partners are "normal" there's still only a 25% chance per month of getting PG. If you're over 35 then you can seek treatment at 6 mos. I was able to circumvent the 12 mos. wait though b/c my cycles were so irreg., my OB said I wasn't Oing. However, you might want to consider making an appt. with your OB in the next couple of months though & bring up the fact that you're TTC, & it's been awhile. Some drs might be more willing to work with you before the year is up. Also, I'd highly suggest you getting your DH to take a SA as soon as possible b/c if there is male issues then you definitely are better off pursuing IUI or the like. It's a frustrating process, I've been TTC #1 for 18 mos. now, around the 6 mos. mark I started focusing a lot of energy on baby-making too. Good luck. Hang in there. And I hope you find a dr willing to help you before the 1 year mark. HTH!


J - February 22

Hi Meighen...some doctors won't make you wait the full 12 months even if you're under 35. I would recommend that you go ahead and speak to your doctor and see what he/she says. My husband and I started trying in Jan. 2002 (I was 31 and he was 30 at the time). 8 months later, after having no luck, my doctor was ready to start running tests on us. I decided to give it a few more months, and finally agreed to have some testing done 4 months later. My tests were all normal, and the next step was to have my husband tested. He balked at doing it...said that he didn't have time due to work, he was sure there was nothing wrong with him (even though 40% of infertile couples have male factor infertility), he found it embarrassing, etc. Finally last summer, after we still had not conceived and it had been over 3 years, he agreed to go. Well, guess what...our problem was with his sperm (he has very low motility and morphology). My doctor referred us to a fertility clinic, we did one cycle of IUI, and I got pregnant . I'm very happy, but also very frustrated that he waited so long to get tested. I'm 35 now, so we may not have any more children, and if he'd been tested right after I was, we wouldn't have wasted so much time. Anyway, the point of all this is, definitely don't wait as long as we did to seek help. It will save you a lot of heartache and frustration. Also, don't let your family and friends discourage you...people who have not been in this situation do not understand it. So many people told me, "Oh, just relax, you're trying too hard." Well, they were obviously wrong!! Good luck to you!


soimpatient - February 22

Hi Meighen. My hubby & have been ttc for 6 months also and today, I spoke to my gyn about assessing my "problem". He has issued some hormone tests (blood test) and I have to wait 3 months and then go back to him. My cycles are VERY irregular and so maybe that is why he didn't make me wait the full year. When I go back to see him in 3 months (by then I will have been TTC for 9 months) he will decide what my options are. I recommend at least talking to your doctor. If you're anything like me....duh, impatient...then you'll feel better getting the ball rolling.


Chas - February 22

Hi Meighen, I agree with J. If you are going to go to the doctor, then you both should get tested. We are still trying and have been for 14 months now. My dh got tested last month and we found out he has a low sperm count. He is going to see a urologist to see how bad it is and if we can do something about it. It's better to know sooner than later. I was 29 when we finally agreed to try and have a baby, and now I will be 31 in 3 months. Time gets away from you before you know it !! good luck


Mega - February 22

J, I saw from your post that your DH has morphology & motility issues. So does my DH, we're one of those lucky 40% with both male & female issues. Anyway, that's great that your 1st IUI work. That's great. Congrats on your pregnancy. It's so nice to read success stories with IUI for morphology issues. I'm about to go back to IUIs & it's nice to be reminded of success stories. Take care.


J - February 22

Thanks, Mega. We were incredibly lucky...the doctor told us after we found out that I was pregnant that, due to my dh's tests run by their clinic (which he did after the IUI to avoid interfering with our timing), they had figured our chances of success with IUI at 5%. He was absolutely stunned that it worked for us, and especially on the first try. It just goes to show that estimates and percentages can be wrong sometimes. I hope that your next IUI will be successful too!!


Meighen N. - February 23

Thank you all for your comments:) I have been reading the postings on this site and find it refreshing that I can go to someone who may be going through the same thing I am. I am 29 and my husband is 31, he agrees that it is an easy test for him to go and check his sperm count. So we may start there. I am getting mixed communications when it comes to when my ovulation time frame is. I usually start my period on the 1st of the month. So Feb 1st was the first day of my last period. So I presume I am on a 28 day cycle. When would my ovulation days be? Also, is it true that you are suppose to incline your pelvic area after intercourse? I honestly thought this would be a lot easier than it is. I guess it is just not the right time for my husband and I. My fingers are crossed for this month. I am feeling cramping though...so I highly doubt I am pregnant. Thank you all for your words..I appreicate it:)


J - February 23

Hi Meighen...if you're on a 28-day cycle, you would most likely ovulate sometime around day 14. I've heard that it can help to incline your pelvic area for a few minutes after intercourse, so it's probably worth trying that. After my IUI, they had me lie back on the on the table for 5 minutes before leaving. About the cramping that you're having...that doesn't necessarily mean that you're not pregnant. I had menstrual-type cramps for 3 or 4 days before I tested positive (in fact, the night before I tested, I cried for over an hour because I was so sure I wasn't pregnant, since I was having the exact same cramps and feelings that I always have right before my period). I continued having these cramps pretty regularly for the first 10 weeks of my pregnancy, and my doctor said they're very common, so don't lose hope for this month yet. That's wonderful that your husband is agreeable to having a semen analysis already. It sounds like he's very supportive, which is really important. I know what you mean...I just assumed that I'd get pregnant within a couple of months after we started trying. I never dreamed it would take this long or be this difficult. This site is a wonderful place to get advice and support...I wish I had found it sooner. Good luck and keep us posted!


Meighen N - February 23

Thank you... I will most certainly keep you posted. I really appreciate you taking the time and energy to answer my questions. Good Luck to you as well... and Congratulations!


JessicaG. - February 23

Me and my DH tried for 5 months went to the Doc and found out that I have PCOS but a rare form, no other symptoms I just do not ovulate....I have been on Letrozole and am on CD 23; 12 DPO^^^^^^^GOOD LUCK WITH MUCH BABY DUST^^^^^^^^^^



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