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Helene ~ I didn't go to the bathroom after sex, because I always got UTI's. I just went to the bathroom because we weren't "trying" to have a child. I'm not 100% sure if they were positive OPK's all that time. To me they looked like they were. I lost the instruction paper and I couldn't remember where the test line was and where the reference line was. So maybe I got them mixed up or something. I haven't been to the doctor for anything. I know that I need to, but I am afraid of what they will say and if they will tell me that I'm too young and things like that and I really don't feel like being lectured about my age and having a baby. I got enough of that from my parents when I was younger, lol.

Oh and also, I went to a PCOS website and I took their quiz on symptoms and I only scored a 2 which is low. I don't think that I have it, I really haven't been irregular until recently. It might be stress from my job, because I hate it, lol. So who knows, but I do need to get to the doc and get a check-up.

Kare - That is good that you looked up that site and took the test. Like i said, I wouldn't jump to any conclusions just fro the opk's, especially as it is probably juts likely that you misinterpreted them (especially as you didn't have the directions to compare them to). The line has to be at least as dark as if not darker than the control line for it to be positive. Some women get a fade in line meaning a line that just keeps getting darker and darker until it is as dark or darker than the control line. others just get a dark line and then next day they get a positive. I get the fade in line (which is nice, because you kind of have a warning that it is coming!) and it sounds to me like you may have the same thing. When they get within a shad or two of the test lines, it is not easy to tell, so maybe you thought you had positives, but your fade in line was just very close in color. I really doubt you have anything to worry about. AS for not wanting the doctor to lecture you about your age and having a baby, I would shop around for a doctor that doesn't treta you like a child. You are an adult, and it is your decision ot have a child. If you and your fiancee are ready financially and emotionally prepared and you have a commitment to each other and the child, then you are ready. And when I say financially, I don't mean you are rolling in the bucks either. My mom used to always say, please if you wait until you think you have "enough" money you will never have kids! LOL! My sister-in-law said the same thing. The doctor's job is to give you advice on your physical well-being and to tell you what steps you should take to prepare (such as prenatal vitamins and checking your immunities etc.) I don't see how 22 is too young to be a mom. I have a good friend who got married at 22 and got p/g right away. She has three beautiful children and she was and still is a wonderful mom. It is all about maturity, and some peopel are ready for that step sooner than others. Some of us just wait longer because we aren't with the right person yet, or we are concentrating on other parts of our lives (heck I have some friends who swore they were never going ot have kids and then suddenly they hit 30 and were like, hmmm, changed my mind!). SO any doctor who starts lecturing you on being too young is really out of tune with your needs. I would see the doc and tell him/her that you would like to TTC as soon as possible, and ask what you should be doing. If you get a lecture or some other bs about your age (which is ridiculous) then go to a new doctor. It is your body and your life, and you and your dh have every right to start a family when you see fit. the average age for having a first or second baby.

OKay, I need to stop posting such long posts! LOL! That last line was supposedto say that not long ago 22 was the average age to have a child.

Helene ~ Thanks, I know that nowdays more people are having kids at an average of probably 25 years old. But after you hit your twenties your chances decrease each year, don't they? I feel like we are ready, we aren't rolling in the money, but I know that we will be able to make it.

Kare- actually no, they don't decrease in your twenties. Actually in your twenties you are at the best time for having a healthy baby. (teens are fertile but have a higher risk of low-birth weight babies and such). There is a slight decrease in fertility after 30, and a greater decrease after 35, then a gretaer decrease after 40. I am not sure of the exact numbers, but you can probably find them online or in one of the baby books out there.

Helene ~ Oh ok, I thought that I read in the twenties. Anyways, my AF is due on the 20th, any of you ladies expecting AF around that time???

Hey ladies i was just wondering if i could join in on your forum me and my dh have been really for the past 2 months ive been off bc pills a while almost a year and we've been having unprotected sex since then but not really trying.So this month is actually our second month of trying and so far im kinda new to this and just looked up the time im suppose to be ovulating on a calander i found online. I thought about buying opks but wasnt for sure if they really worked or not do you think i should?? I mean me and dh try to dance almost everyday during ovulation. Just like im due to ovulate on the 15th last month i know i did on the 16th and we've been bding ever since the 12th sometimes twice a day sorry if tmi i just really want to have a baby so bad lol and like my doctor said there no such thing as trying to hard so who knows im hoping af isnt due until the 29th and im pretty regular when it comes to af so anyways i wish you all the best i really do and hope to keep in touch with you all and ill try to keep in touch also babydust to u all!!!

lol well i messed the first sentence up but i mean me and my hubby have been trying for about 2 months sorry gurls got a lil ahead of myself lol

hey girls! sorry i haven't been in here for almost a week...things have been really busy for me at work and it's the only place i have access to a computer right now. so anyways, how's everyone doing? Jessi~ no i didn't really regret going to the baby shower, but it was kind of hard watching her open the presents and putting them up to her belly. dont feel bad about not going, if your friends have any idea what you are going through then they will understand. and if they dont understand, try to explain it to them...sometimes people dont know what it's like to walk in someone else's shoes unless you help them to understand. Kare~ i understand what you mean about not wanting to be judged for wanting a baby just because your age. i am 22 and my last OB/GYN made a comment about not wanting to rush infertility treatments because my dh (which is actually my fiance too. lol)and i are still pretty young and it ticked me off, so needless to say she is not my doctor anymore. i dont go to the doctor to be judged for my age or what i do, i'm there for help and if they dont want to give me help then i move onto someone who will. dont be afraid to go in there...let the Dr. say what s/he wants and if you dont agree then tell them you dont and then tell them you will be looking for a new Dr.-it never hurts to speak your mind. and as far as the OPK, if you have enough money you should try to get a Clear Blue Easy fertility monitor. they're digital and they tell you whether you are low, high, or peak (peak being the day you O) which is really nice because it takes all the guess work out of comparing lines on the test strips. and the at-home-sperm-tests are not really reliable because your dh could have a high count, but a low morphology or motility and they cant tell you that. so if you can try to get him in to get a sperm count done at a lab. Helene~ i am sorry for your loss. i know what you mean about seeing everyone pg lately. my boss is pg, the notary that works at my office just had her baby, my friend is 16 weeks pg, and my best friend just had her baby a few months ago. i'm surrounded!!! lol then i read yesterday that "bimbo" (i LMAO when i read that!)Britney Spears is pg AGAIN! i mean what the hell...she cant even properly care for her 1st kid...and she said in People magazine that she wants to get out there and start touring again (saying she wants to shake up the boring pop scene). how can you tour with 2 infants and spend time with them? plus it's not like the Feder-jerk is going to help her now that he's moving on...he doesn't even really take care of the first 2 kids he had with his last girlfriend!! Britneyhayden~ Welcome! opk's are really good in helping you figure out when you O, just keep in mind that if you buy the strips you have to look very closely to see the difference in shades so you can tell whether you are Oing yet. i personally like the digital Clear Blue Easy monitors because, like i said earlier, they take away all the guess work with the strips. they are a little expensive, but worth it. and dont worry about TMI, we're all adults and have probably experienced the same things. but having sex twice a day might hurt you a little when it comes to ttc. Dr.'s say you should only have sex once a day or everyother day because you have to give the sperm time to build back up. good luck! alright, well i'm on cd 26 today and have a feeling af will be showing up soon...hopefully she just shows up on time this month cause last month i got my hopes up because i was 5 days late. alright, well i'm going to get out of here after writing my mini book!lol i'll talk to you all later. *~*baby dust*~*

thanks so much dee for your input i think im going to go out today and look at a clear blue easy kit thanks so much and lol even if it did hurt my chances a lil you know it was ok lol and as for doctors telling you that your to young i totally understand that i was 18 when i got pregnant with my daughter and that was after a year an half of trying because i was 17 when i got married and everyone thought i was crazi for that i mean like i was to young and blah blah but i knew i was in love and i knew i wanted to be with my dh and i knew i wanted babies every since i could remember and there were girls who i knew who were younger then me like 14 years old who were gettin pregnant and then after having the baby they gave them away which was better then a girl i know who had an aborition i just didnt understand it and it broke my heart but one day by the grace of god i found out i was pg after all the heartache so i know how you ladies feel more then anything and actually i almost lost my daughter she was born premature and spent a while in nicu and i mean its just the hardest trying time in my life but no matter what i wouldnt have changed anything and everyone around me now is like well you have one child you should be thankful and not worry about another one so soon. and you know it makes me feel bad that i want another i mean im more thankful than anything for my daughter shes my life but i dont think ppl should hate me or judge me because i want another or that im furstrated because im having a harder time also i mean ppl r just crazi sometimes but i know first hand gurls that its possible even though ppl tell you not and you give up hope and you get your heart broke but it will happen and ijust pray to god it happens soon for you all and the babies are healthy and i guess ill be keeping my fingers crossed for a bfp sometime and just like feeling bad about baby showers and all that you know i felt really bad because when i found out i was finally pg with my daughter my cousin had just gotten married it was her second marriage and she really wanted a baby more then anything and it just broke my heart but her husband had been tested and he had a low sperm count and all that and actually had invetro done twice and still no go and you know i know it hurt her feelings when i had my baby shower and when i had my daughter she didnt even come to the hospital when my daughter almost died and your know i felt so bad i did because i know that feeling because the year before my best friend had a baby after a month of trying and you know it broke my hearty i just didnt know what to say but it will happen one day if its meant to be you know and im happy to say though shes got a beautiful lil girl now but ladies its ok to vent and its ok to get pissed at preggos lol ecspecially when your not ive been there but it will happen one day i think ive wrote enough for today huh lol well thanks so much for your alls input and all i wish you the best of luck and babydust!!!!!

Oh my! Brittney Spears pregnant again? What stat is this world in? Like you said, Dee, she can't even grow up enough to take care of the first one. As I said before, it is not age, but maturity that makes the difference and she is definitely lacking in maturity. As for the fertility issue, the standard answers that if you have been trying for a year (not just not using bc) then regardless of your age, then they start referring you to a specialist. If you are over 35 they refer you after 6 mos. (I guess because they figure you're running out of time, ha,ha!). Like Dee said, find a doctor who shares your opinion that it is your body and that you know it well enuogh to know when something doesn't seem right. It is easy for peopel to say you're young, you have plenty of time when they don't have any problem TTC. If it makes you ladies feel any better, I get the revers age thing being older. When I was still p/g, I called in to schedule an u/s for 8wks, and the girl on the phone asked if I was having twins because she thought thta was so early. Then she heard my age, a and said, oh - you are an AMO. I was like, WHAT? And she explained that meant advanced maternal age. I was like thanks, just stick me in the geriatric war while you are at it. LOL. SO I thin it has hard at any age. BrittneyH - nice to hear form you. Good luck, and no it is never TMI. AS Dee said, we are all adults. Kare - I am expecting a/f on Monday (31 days) unless it goes back to 28 days and shows up on Friday (but I don't feel like it will yet). We had a hard time scheduling the old bd-ing this month so I basically have a snowball's chance in hell and I basically am 99.9% a/f wil be arriving. We have been far more precise with our timing and nothing, so I see no reason to expect anything this month. SO if yo get af, you wil have company!. Take care ladies, and good luck!

i also thought i saw the other day in one of the magazines at walmart a pic of britney spears husband holding hands or something with some other chyk she really picked a good time to bring another baby into the world huh ecspecially when he does nothing with the 3 kids he has and from what ive read shes not that much of a mother either because the pics of her on the beach in bikins were their saying shes pregnant didnt her and some friends go to the beach to get away from kevin i dunno celebs lead crazier lives than anyone. But i went and looked at the clear blue easy test and they are kind expensive so im going to wait until this weekend to pick one up but ive been going by a ovulation calendar and things and im suppose to ovulate 15th or 16th so i guess i will just go by that and use the clear blue easy predictor next month incase af doesnt show up which i hope to god it doesnt but it just seem sto easy if it happened this fast this month but i guess crazier things have happened and you know before me an dh decided to start trying again i went to the doctor who delievered my daughter and you know it was never a issue about age she was just like have any problems you know where im at i mean im 21 now and i was scared everyone would say whatever when i got pregnant the first time but my doctor was very supportive and thats what their suppose to be not judge you but help you. So i cant complain about my doctor just some ppl around me. But i truely wish you gals all the best its been so great to be able to come on here and talk to other ppl and get to understand alot more about things i really had no clue about but the last time i went to the doctor other then having a cyst on my ovary i was fine and she said that would go away i even had a cyst on my ovary when i was pregnant with my daughter and a month after i had her so i really dont know what the deal is with me and dh but i know it took me forever last time like close to 2 years and i didnt have insurance at the time so couldnt afford a doctor really and we had a house payment and blah blah but this time around if its like that then i know a little better what to do i guess i just pray it doesnt take that long! But good luck and god bless girls!!! ill keep ya updated with my situation

Helene ~ Yeah my AF is due this coming Monday the 20th. Is that when yours is due?? I have this computer software called Femta www. femta.com It keeps track of your menses and it tells you your fertility peaks. There is a trial run of 50 days and then you have to pay for it. But it's easy to download and it tells you your average days in your cycle, that's how I found out my average days. There is also this one that is called MommyMaker www.mommymaker.com and it says that it guarantees you to get pregnant with their software if you are accurate with your BBT's and if you have sex on the days that it tells you to, etc. And it says that you don't have to pay a thing until you get pregnant. Now I was wondering how they knew if you did or not. They say that they have no idea if you get pregnant or not, it's all about your consience, or however you spell it LOL!

Kare, hi, I just wanted to let you know that on opks for a many women, the double line will show up throughout their cycle. It is not considered positive unless the test line is the same or DARKER then the control line. I used OPKs for 2 months and got a light line for about 4 days before I got a dark line, then AF showed up about 14-15 days later, so I know that I ovulated at that time. I hope this helps.

I have a question. Today I have this bad cramping right in the middle of my lower stomach, right above my pelvic bone. It's not to the side or anything, right in the middle. But for the past like 4-5 days I have had a very slight cramping pain on the right hand side. I don't think that it's an eptopic pregnancy, because the pain is very very very slight. I think that I need to go to the doctor.