Trying but no luck...
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gingy - November 4

My husband and I have been trying for a baby for just over 4 yrs. (I should mention that I have a 12 yr. old son). We have been to the dr. many times. My husband has had sperm counts done, I have blood work done to make sure I am ovulating, and to make sure that my eggs are healthy, I have even had a laperoscopy procedure done to find out that I have many adheasions (scar tissue) also know as PID, probably from past radiation treatments. The dr. said my chances of having a pregnancy is about 30 %.We have not given up hope, but have stopped tyring. Is there anyone out there who can give me some hope or encouragement?

 

marymo1 - November 4

Hi gingy, did you have trouble conceiving your son? Have you been to an RE? Did the doctor say your chances were not good because of the scar tissue? Im just wondering if they can correct the scar adheasions through surgery, and then your chances would be increased? I know the frustration, its horrible isnt it?? It doesnt make it any easier when you hear someone who is pregnant or have many children and it came so easy to them. I am also on 4 years of ttc. I have two children. Had them without any problems. I know how hard it is when someone says, "Oh, dont give up", Im sorry, but I want to scratch their eyeballs out. Im not trying to be mean, but no one knows the frustration until they actually walk in someones shoes who has been through infertility. I guess, I would get a second opinion?? Plus, Im not sure how costly it would be. What does your husband think?

 

gingy - November 4

Hi marymo1 and thanks for responding to my question. I am new to this forum and do not know all of the abbreviations . I'm not sure what a RE is. When I had the laperoscopy procedure done the doctor did laser off the adheasions. He told me they would start to come back almost immediately. He also said it would not be worth doing the procedure again for the same reason. My dr. has referred me to a fertility clinic for a consult on IVF. The only problem is that I don't have that kind of money. My husband does not have any children of of his own (he just adopted my son) and he would really like one of his own. We have talked about adoption and before, he was totally against it, but now seems to be opening up to the idea. We would just really want to have our own baby if there was a chance.

 

marymo1 - November 4

Hi gingy, an RE is a reproductive endocronologist. someone who specializes in infertility. Ive been to two of them, but ran out of money. My husbands insurance doesnt cover infertility. Ive tried clomid, femara and the trigger shots. All my bloodwork and ultrasounds came back fine. My husband is fine. I ovulate on my own and have regular cycles. Thats why Im so baffled. Its weird how you mentioned adoption. Im thinking about that myself. My husband, on the other hand, I dont think could deal with it, because it wouldnt be our biological child. I can see how your husband is thinking too. I have some friends who adopted, Im going to talk to them about the process and whats involved. I would love to. I would have to work hard to convince my husband.

 

gingy - November 4

Hi marymo1, our insurance does not cover infertility either, and everything is so expensive! My dr had mentioned clomid to me (to regulate my cycles) but my insurance does not cover that either. You mentioned trigger shots? What is that and what do they do? Maybe in time your husband will open up to adoption, as mine did. I think he has just come to the realize that we may not have any other options if we really want to have a baby. Couples that dont have problems concieving, dont know how blessed they really are.

 

marymo1 - November 4

HI gingy. A trigger shot is when they see the follicles on ultrasound, they have to be a certain size, I believe 18mm or larger, and then you trigger the follicle to be released around ovulation time. Its usually a shot in the stomach. Its not a big needle. The medication is expensive. Luckily, the office I went to had samples, otherwise I couldnt have afforded it. I think I dropped close to 1500.00 in 2 months (ugh!!). I just cant do that. Each month I was hoping and praying it would be my month. I stopped buying home preg. tests. I could probably have stock in them!!! Its weird. Each month, I just know Im not pregnant. Its almost like I look for any kind of symptom. I swear, Im going to end up in the looney bin. Its hard when my kids say "Mom, when are you going to have a baby? I just cry, my heart just aches. Adoption at least gives me a little ray of hope. Ive heard it is expensive, but my friends did some kind of loan. It took them I think 18 months to receive their daughter. At least theres a little light at the end of the tunnel, if adoption is the option to go.

 

gingy - November 4

Hi again marymo1, I know exactly how you feel, it is very upsetting when you have your hope set that maybe this the month, and then your cycle starts. I do the same thing, look for a sign that might indicate Im pregnant. I have stopped buying hpts, even when Im late just because they are always neg. Its like, why waste my time testing when in the end I know I'm not! I wish you luck in whatever you choose to do!

 

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