Over 5 1/2 years?
5 Replies
Renee - April 6

My husband and I have been married for over 5 1/2 years. We have never used anything to prevent pregnancy. We can't afford to go to a fertility doctor, but nothing has happened for us in all the time we have been married. I just don't know what to do. I am distraught over this. All my friends and family are getting pregnant, even people who were married after us. It is very discouraging. Is there any help out there for us who are on a fixed income?


Curious (B) - April 6

I know how you feel, I feel the same way - read my recent post about overweight & pregnancy. It is extremely frustrating to see everyone get pregnant and you who have the loving, caring and dear husband and the perfect home not to. It's hard, every month I get my period and it makes me want to cry. I have been married for 7 years and have tried for 2 1/2 years. Husband had surgery "bilateral varicoccele" but it turns out his sperm is "perfect" now. I am playing the waiting game but reassuring myself that I am able to have children with an RE who is running all kinds of tests. GOOD LUCK !!!


Claire - April 20

Renee - I would go to the doctors and get a sperm test done on your husband and blood tests on yourself. This should identify the problem and not be too expensive. Some fertility treatments aren't that expensive. I had to do IVF with ICSI because my husband was infertile and that was seriously expensive but my mother-in-law paid. It may be worth saying to people - like your parents and his parents - someone may be able to help. After 5 1/2 years if you don't get help its unlikely you will conceive but keep trying. You could also look into adopting / fostering - not the same but you get to have kids. Good luck.


mls - April 20

Your family physician can prescribe medications to help you ovulate and the such. Have you tracked your periods, temperature, or ovulation? That would be the first step.


andrea - April 20

Renee i agree with mls, start your charting, see if your temperatures are where they should be for ovulating, check ur cervical mucous and positioning of your cervix. You may just not be having sex at the right time. It will also tell you if your luteal phase (the time after your ovulation to your next period) is long enough or too short. If it's short you cant carry but you can get prescirption to help this out and aid in your pregnancy. Don't fret, the more worried you are the more i hear it goes against you (I know not fair). I am doing all this charting etc and its not tough at all and it gets you to recognize things about you and your body that can ultimately help a doc if u do need the help.


dawn - April 20

I might be able to help you!!!! I didn't think I could get preg. My husband and I tried for over 2 years. I know have a healthy 19 month old boy. I know the pain you are feeling. I would get very discouraged about getting preg. too. And seeing all of your friends pregnant doesn't help. A friend gave me some info on some natural supplements that worked for her.They worked for me and all of my friends that could not get preg. This stuff really does work. I can email you the info if you want. My email is [email protected]. It is natural and there are no side effects and much much cheaper than fertility meds.



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