I genuinely don't understand, it doesn't feel fair....
4 Replies
Sveya - October 12

I try really hard to be genuinely happy for other people who are more blessed than me. I have been happily married for 11 years and still trying for my first child. I am praying so hard for a miracle. And then just now, I read a story about a family who just yesterday delivered her 16th child. yes - 16th. And they are estactic about having more. She is just a few years older than me. I don't know how to feel or react, don't get me wrong, I am happy for them, they look like a happy family. But, so many women (myself included) are praying and trying so desperately hard, wanting, trying to hang on to hope, believe that it can and will happen to them. Why is it so easy for someone like her? I'm happy,( for this lady and her family) but I also feel like a dagger in pulling in my heart at the same time. I genuinely hope all of you will get an answers to your prayers really soon. And that your special miracle comes true. ***baby dust***


Lisa - October 13

I know what you mean. I am 40, just married for the first time, trying to get pregnant, going for fertility tests. And then I read posts from women complaining about their life with their new baby. I feel like saying, you made a decision to have that baby, get over it and life with your choice. I don't have a choice in this. I didn't make the decision not to find the right man until now, not to try getting pregnant until later in life. I wish you luck.


sveya - October 13

Thanks for understanding Lisa. I wish you the very best in conceiving. I'm 35 and my husband is 43. You are so right - especially with infertility issues, a lot of times, we don't have a choice, it's just out of our control. It isn't our fault, it's just how it turned out to be. I am so happy that you took the time to find someone you knew was the right person for you to marry, because someday your future kids are really going to feel the love you and your spouse have for one another and for them. Keep in touch, I wish you the very best - miracles do happen. We just need to believe our miracles will come true too.


Tracy - October 13

Sveya & Lisa, I also know what you mean. I am only 29 but have been married 2 years and have known that I have PCOS for about 5 years. So the fact that we haven't gotten pregnant isn't surprising. I finally have an appointment with a fertility specialist later this month. I know that I haven't been trying for a long time but just the thought of not ever having a baby is enough to make me cry. My husband and I love kids and we would make awesome parents. It is hard watching all of my friends getting pregnant so easily and it'll never be easy for us. But hopefully things will go our way. I wish both of you, and anyone else going through their own fertility battle, the best of luck.


yum - October 13

What we need is an improved IVF...higher successful rate and cheaper!!! I hope science can make sterm cell into sperm/eggs..That will really help! Also creating genes to help women over 45 to produce eggs..



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