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I'm really close to giving up TTC.I've been doing everything right,tracking my ovulation, taking vitamins and folic acid, not drinking ever, no smoking,exercising,I'm at a healthy weight, we've been married for almost 2 years, we own our own home,we practice the hip elevation when having sex, I even spent the $25.00 on the "pre-seed" lubricant, and still nothing. My husband does not understand what I go through every month when my period arrives.I know I've been told "just relax, don't think or worry about it" or my favorite " whatever happens, happens." The worst part of that comment is, that I don't have a sex drive. I lost my sex drive when I was taking Ortho-tryclene b/c pills.So it's not like we have sex everyday or every other day. Now it's more like maybe once a week. I thought things would be so much different when I stopped taking them. I'm starting to feel like less of a woman. I mean, come on, the reason god made a woman is so we can reproduce. We can do something that a man will never be able to do. It's not like I'm old either. (No offense to the older readers) I'm just saying age isn't against me,I'm only 25.My sister has 5 children,but she started really young. She was only 17 when she got pregnant. And my brother has 1 child and 1 more on the way and his wife has endometreosis. My husband has been layed off more in these two years that we have been married, than he has actually worked. Last year he was layed off for six months, went back to work for 6 months, then was layed off again, went back to work for about a month, got layed off again, went back to work once again, and now he has been layed off for a couple of weeks.He is in the trades, and right now the work is slow and he's the low man on the totum pole, so he's the one that gets let go. It's nothing that he's doing wrong,other guys have also been let go, not just him. But anyways.. Each time he tells me that he's layed off, I just want to scream and rip my hair out, and automatically the first thing I think about it is our TTC besides money of course. I don't know how many times I've told him that we're going to stop trying because we just can't afford it. Now, even though I have been doing everything right,even changing my diet,he has done nothing. I've asked him to quit smoking cigars and switch to boxer shorts, because I've heard that these two things can help the sperm. I've also brought to his attention that his 2 aunts on his dads side,1 was not able to conceive and the other took many years. She actually did not get pregnant until after they adopted. He says that has nothing to do with the males in the family. Am I being to over-bearing? All I'm trying to do is start a family, and trying to eliminate any possible things that could be preventing it from happening.I'm at wits end with everything. I know that stress could be a factor, but who wouldn't be in my situation. I pray to god every night, and I've come to the conclusion that god just doesn't hear me anymore.I'm losing my faith, my patience, and my mind. Nobody seems to understand where I'm coming from.I have nobody to talk to. I'm almost to the point of giving up on having a family, maybe it just wasn't meant to be for me.I don't want to hear, Oh your so young, you have time. Im my opinion, I don't have time. I don't want to be old having children. I want to be able to enjoy my grand children.I'm ready, and there's nothing holding us back except for whatever is stopping us from getting pregnant. Has anyone gone through any of this? Does anybody have any words of encouragement?
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