For 6 LONG months..
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SBZ - February 20

my partner and i have been together for 2 1/2 years. we finally decided back in august of 2005 to make a baby...hopefully conceiving before my birthday and giving birth after my birthday. we have actively been attempting during the proper time of the month. yet it's been 6 months and still no baby. i'm young (20), in great shape, have an excellent diet, don't smoke, rarely ever drink. i know it'll take a while...but why should it take so long if everything is prime??? it gets more heart-breaking with every negative pregnancy test we take. i've just about had it up to here and am on the verge of giving up. me :`(


jg - February 20

If conditions are perfect, there is still only a 20% chance each month that you may fall pregnant, and doctors will rarely investigate until you have been trying to conceive for over 12 months, as that is the average time that a healthy couple take to get pregnant. So don't worry yet.


Bray69 - February 20

Are you temping? Using OPK? I highly recommend the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement, and Reproductive Health". I bought mine on for about $17. I thought I knew all about my body, boy was I wrong.

You can track you temps at for free. You enter various infor and the sites software will let you know if you are in your fertile phase.


Lilu - February 20

I had a stillbirth in August at 34 1/2 weeks. The doc gave me the okay in October and we've been strying ever since and nothing. I've been using the opks and charting my temperature but my cycle keeps changing. I don't have a cooperative dh. I just feel as if I'm in it myself. He said it wasn't this hard the first time. I think the reson I'm not getting pregnant is b/c I have a irregular schedule. I can't get dh to have sex every day. I just don't know what to do... does anyone have that problem. I don't know how we're suppose to have a baby when there's no sex?? (we have sex but he thinks we can whenever) he's like... I'm not going by that stuff anymore. GRR... does anyone have a uncooperative dh when it comes to bd'ing?


SashaP - February 20

Lilu my dh goes through the same motions he agrees to bd every other day at the begging of the cycle by the time O is coming he wants to be done for awhile. So I stopped telling him when I'm going to O and trick him. Or I wake him up at 2:00am and bd when he's to tired to think about it and agrees to it. It worked this month I caught it the exact day of surge. You just have to learn to trick the dh, when they think your playing scientist they don't get into it. Good luck and baby dust to all...


Brittney - February 21

SBZ, My suggestion is to give up. My husband and I have tried for a year and the month that we decided we were infertal we got pregnant. I was in shock and so was he. Don't sweat it. I know it is difficult but it will happen trust me.


ciera - February 21

I know how you feel, we have been trying for 5 months now and every month is a let down. Keep your hopes high, doctors day it may take a year to get pregnant. Good luck and make sure that you having fun, instead of it feeling like its a job. Also after are you sitting with you legs up for a bit???


Lilu - February 21

Sasha... that's a good idea. Thanks!


julia - February 22

Hi dear ladies. We've been trying to get pg for a year. I used tests to track my ovulation. We bded beginning day 11 every day until I would get O according to the o tests. This month I bought ClearBlue Fertility monitor. Today is my 16 cd. Monitor shows low fertility. I believe if you bd often you might waste too much important material too early. The monitor took al the stress of guessing o from us. Now we are just waiting for the high fertility day and don't waste those precious little fishes. It might be really tyering for a guy to bd every day. Besides sperms might need time to mature. Bd too often might decrease amount of good sperms by the time they are needed.


Nikki - February 23

Hi SBZ! I don't know what to tell you, but I have the same problem. We started trying around mid-august last year, and I still haven't tested positive. I spoke to my doctor, and he said that it wasn't unusual yet. But it feels unusual to me. I see so many people get pregnant around me, and it hurts more and more everytime I realize that, once again, I am not one of them.
I've also seen a statistic showing that only 3-4% of all women in our age group (I just turned 22) have fertility problems. I just hope that we're not among those few.
I can't figure out if I should give up or start trying harder? (Having tests done, testing for ovulation or even making my husband sit on ice!)
I just tested negative again so I guess my next period will be my sixth one since we started trying.
All I can say is,that my doctor sounded very optimistic and it sounds like your situation is very similar to mine.



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