Concerned for a dear please
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A friend - January 27

My friend was exposed and caught herpes before she met and married her dh. (It was actually a couple months before she met him) She was devistated and never told her now dh that she has herpes. They have been married for 2 years and now she just found out she is infertile because of poor egg quality. I told her over and over again to be honest with him but that is another story. Anyways, could herpes lead to the decline of the quality of her eggs? I was just curious. She is 35 and I am just concerned for my friend. Thanks bunches!


Ann - January 28

I don't know how herpes affects the body, but your friend's low egg quality is likely due to age. I am "old" too for conceiving (36) and the drs are always talking about how egg quality decreases quickly after you hit 35. I think some people have decreases at younger ages--one thing that can affect that is if you started your period for the first time at a young age. Regarding the herpes, I would suggest that you do some searches on the internet using "herpes" and "infertility" as search terms. Good luck to your friend and you are nice to be so concerned for her.


Bimshire33 - January 29

Hi, have seen a little research on this and am sure it said that it does not affects fertility, but your frined should tell her DH about the herpes. (Yes I know you've already mentioned this to her). Age maybe a factor but not necessarily the right answer. She could consider IVF or egg donor.


hopeful06 - January 29

Try googling herpes and infertility.... This is what I found: "The herpes simplex virus is a skin infection and does not spread up the genital tract like bacterial infections. It does not cause infertility and women can get pregnant without any problem. There is usually no danger to the baby while inside the uterus. It is important that you let your doctor/midwife know if you have a history of genital herpes." I found this on the following website:
If this website adds dashes in the web address, remove them to access the site!! Even though this info is promising, your friend really should let her partner know about the herpes as well as her doctor! I know you have tried, but please try again....


a friend - January 29

thanks so much ladies for the info. I really want her to tell dh too. She is a well educated(well in some areas) and is a successful business woman and for her not to tell her dh really shocks me since she has other areas of her life so "together". Thanks again and many blessings to you all!



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