cant concieve getting me down.
69 Replies
april - March 14

5 years trying, dh and i are getting stronger stronger in our relationship. hang in there


jamie - March 15

deedee my husband and i have been trying for 2 years and i am the same way. everytime i get my period i cry and get depressed. alot of my friends and family have babies, that makes it really hard. i thought i was the only one like that, i really want a baby and i don't know what to do i'm scared that it is me and i won't ever be able to get pregnant. i'm starting to feel hopeless


mary - March 15

dee i really know how you truely feel we have been trying for about 5 months..& still nothing n when i get my periods i cry my self to sleep..i get so depresssed its like why not me you know..i dunno i think im giving up now..but i wish the best for you sweetie..keep us updated dust to ya!


Carrie - March 15

Hi all! I've been reading your posts and I completely get where you're all coming from. I had no problems with periods at all up until now. I didn't have one for close to 4 months as soon as hubby and I decided to start trying. I too thought it was baby stress related and tried to be relaxed. Turns out after 6 months of trying that I have an abnormality in the lining of my uterus and a 6 cm cyst on my left ovary. The abnormality may cause and issue with conceiving but the cyst is also blocking an ovary so that's probably the reason I'm not ovulating. Just waiting to go see a specialist on these issues, only 3 weeks to go. I too am really wondering why this happens to people who are ready to want and love a child. It's just not fair in my books. I share all of your pain and anguish and hopefully, we'll all be blessed soon! Take care everyone!


TGP - March 17

I am 25 and i have been with my husband for 5 yrs and just about 3 months ago i was told i was unable to have children. I was devasted and so hurt all i want is to have alittle one to love. My husband has 3 children from a previous marriage and it is hard for me to deal with that. I know it is not their fault but I just find it hard to attach to them. I really want a baby so bad and i see my sister who has 4 children and it hurts. sorry to lay this on you it is just that no one here seems to understand or even try to.


To TGP - March 17

Hi there! Trust me, you can vent as much as you like. I'm so sorry that you are going through this at such a young age. Many of us on this board know the frustration that comes with not being able to conceive each month but we also would know how devastating it would be to be told that we couldn't have children on our own. Please keep your head up and we all feel for you and your situation. There are still many other options for you, try to think of it that way. God bless and keep us posted and know that my thoughts and prayers are with you..


jen - March 17

try to relax yourself because you do need the energy. i dont think you will ever be able to get pregnant being depressed. please check with your doc


Kay - March 17

Me and my boyfriend tried for a year, and it never happened. Every month we got our hopes up, and every month we failed.
In December, I took the advice of one of my friends who also had problems conceiving. It might sound weird, but I put a pillow under my butt so that my lower half was elevated. I did this several times.
In January, I waited for my period. It usually starts between day 32 and 35. When day 35 came, I took a test, and I about fell off the toilet. I thought I was seeing things. It actually worked. I really believe that is what helped me get pregnant.


fergy - March 17

first make sure you are doing everything right. make sure you are in good healthy also that you are ovalating and your partner is in good form where his sperm count is concern.i do sympatise with you, try to relax because depression only help to delay the process. i am praying for you that God will give you your heart's desire.


candy - March 17

me and my fiance been trying to have a baby for almost 3 months now and for some reason i cant get pregnant


candy - March 17

yeah i know what you mean girl i have been so depressed but everyone says let nature tak its course


aulani - March 17

I know how you feel. I am so gald I can talk to people in the same boat as me Aloha


Alison - March 21

I know exactly how you feel, but eight months isn't really that long to have been trying (Although I know it feels long to you). It took me 3 years to get pregnant and there's nothing wrong with me or my husband. I've been through all the tears, disappointments and jealousy. Try not to let it get you down and most importantly, never give up hope! It finally happened to me and I couldn't believe it. I still can't!


Jenni - March 23

I know how you feel too. We have been trying for 4 months now. I had my IUD removed and was pregnant exactly one month after, didnt even have a real period, my son is 14 months. I have great fears that my c-sec went wrong. My sister just told me she is pregnant for the first time and even though Im happy for her I wish it was me. I cry on a daily basis and get so depressed when my period comes. It feels like Im going through labour its so painfull and I bleed so much for 2 days then everything stops for 1 day then I bleed normally for the next 2-3 days.
I mark every time we have sex on a calender along with every negative test and every day I bleed. I hate my body for not getting pregnant I hate the excuses people give me and at times I cant even look at my son, its like he is rubbing in the fact!
Im one week off two years since I 1st concieved and my hopes are so high that maybe it will happen again at easter like last time.


Christi - March 23

I also understand how you feel. My husband and I have been trying for 13 months now and I had an early miscarriage about a month ago. It gets very hard and I'm finding myself obsessed and a little depressed lately. I really want to have a baby and it hurts every time you see someone else who is pregnant or who has a new baby. Its getting hard to act happy for them.


Carrie - March 23

Dear Jenni,
Please try not to think that way. You haven't been trying long enough to "hate your body" and to "not be able to look at your son". That is a bad place to get to and it sounds as though even though you really haven't been trying that long, you're getting into a bad spot within your mind. Stress only hinders your efforts. Many people are trying for their first for years and can't even get pregnant for some reason or another. Please try to relax and try not to take "trying" so seriously. It's supposed to be fun, not a job! LOL! Take care of yourself and your beautiful son. It will happen for you eventually, sometimes these things take time. You're all in my thoughts..



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