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I agree with Justine. That makes a lot of sense. I know it is heartbreaking, but you are getting closer than many of the rest of us. I have never had a BFP and if it turns out that our problem is my DH, he won't get checked or assissted. It hurts his "machoness." I hate to say it, but I am a teacher and I see all these parents at school who get pregnant every time they change their underwear!!! They take it for granted and spend no time with their children. My DH's sister has 3 children from 3 different men and won't even tell the middle child her father's name. Okay-sorry- maybe the clomid it affecting me. I really didn't mean to get so negative. That is not what I want to dwell on with all of you. It is just sooooo frustrating! I wish nothing but the best for each of you. Baby Dust*************

Natasha I totally understand. If I had gotten pregnant at 20 it would have been my first husband as the father....big jerk. I always thought the reason I didn't get pregnant with my first husband was because god knew our marriage wasn't meant to be. Ok so a very small part of me thinks it was becuase I couldn't breed outside my species (he was a horrible variety of snake, the deadly cheating kind) My DH I have now is the most wonderful man and we really only waited about 1 year or so to start. Then once we started charting and getting things paid off so I wouldn't have to work and could stay home with the baby we realized this wasn't happening as fast as we thought it would. He went to a male fertility doctor and got tested and I had my OB Gyn run tests on me. He had a slightly low morphology and motility rate with his sperm but nothing that couldn't be fixed with a sperm wash, and they couldn't find anything worng with me, so we suddenly fell under the title "Unknown Infertility" catagory. So I am hoping that these IUI's work. I have to say this, my husband has been wonderful about this. He doesn't care what test he has to go through and trust me there have been alot. He just does whatever the doctor suggests. He has also been great dealing with me during this. He brought me home a Tee Shirt Sunday night that said. "I am taking Clomid, don't piss me off"

That's hilarious!

Hey guys...mind if I chime in?? I have been TTC for over a year and half, am 36 years old, and also got married at the age of 35. I was in the unexplained category, took clomid for three failed cycles, nearly lost my mind on it, and 3 weeks ago, they found two large fibroid tumors during an U/S right as I was about to start my first cycle of injectibles. Talk about frustrating. Now I may have to have a laparoscopy, which won't happen until July, and then I have to heal for a month or two after that. I have a sonohysterogram scheduled for tomorrow, which will determine if the lap is necessary, but woke up to cramps today, so if AF shows tomorrow, I will have to wait even longer. I am so fed up and have lost all the excitement and hope that is supposed to be part of this process. I barely even had sex this month because I thought....what is the point? My husband is very supportive but even he feels discouraged at this point. So, I know how you all feel. I was a teacher until October, so I can relate to the teacher who posted, and now I work at Pottery Barn Kids/Baby!!! Sometimes working around all that baby stuff makes me hopeful again, but at other times, it can be quite depressing. Anyway, thanks for listening. I will let you know if I get my sono tomorrow and what the doc decides to do. Take care ladies!!!!

PS.....Alyssa, I needed that t-shirt months ago. I was the devil on that drug!

Alyssa-Oh my gosh! How funny! You are so blessed to have found such a sweet, supportive man. I am so happy for you. Now hopefully everything else can get straightened out. I don't know about you girls, but I feel like I'm holding my breath, waiting for the rest of my life to begin. It just consumes your life. Then I turn on Maury today and who is on there? WOMEN WHO DON"T KNOW THEIR BABY"S DAD IS!!!!!!!!!!! AHHH!

Tracy, That sucks! I can't imagine not even being able to try for that long of time. I hope everything straightens out as soon as possible and you get nothing but good news from here on:)

Thanks for the positive wishes Colleen. I feel the same way you do...pretty much like I haven't even started living yet, or that someday I hope to have something to live for. Isn't that terrible? I just can't imagine how dull my life would seem without the blessing of my child staring back at me. It's funny that you mentioned the Maury thing....I saw two old friends yesterday (and their beautiful two year old daughter) who told me about some other friends I used to hang out with....well, the girl was PG and when the baby was born the guy insisted on a DNA test, and sure enough, it wasn't his baby. Apparently when this guy was younger, he had an injury to his hoo-haas and the doc told him he would never be able to have kids, so when this chic told him she was PG he got suspicious. Anyway, just thought I'd add to the rediculous stories of people and their misguided lives.

Tracy, sorry for all the delay's. It must be frustrating to have to wait so long for each step. The whole "Unexplained Infertility" Issue with me is a sore one as thats what we have. If you get a chance check out a book called the Conception Chronicles. I got my copy on EBay for $1.99 Its a really good book. One of the three women in it fell into the catagory of unexplained, and it has some great advice and humor on how not to go insane during the process. I tend to have a great attitude, but I am the offical cheerleader of my family, so if I lost it I think the rest of them would freak out. I try to have a sense of humor through it for my sake as well as my husbands. You know I had this blind optimism going in that we would do this once and it would work. When your sick you go to the doctor, he gives you a pill or some cream and poof your fixed. Now I go to the doctor, I am poked, and prodded. They attack me like vampires for blood on a weekly basis and as a bonus 2 or 3 times a month some guy sticks something in me that looks like a Mr. Microphone toy and tries to look at my tonsils through my cervix. ( I patiently told him Friday if he wanted to see my tonsil to please go through my mouth). And with all this technology and drugs and doctors visits, there is still no quick fix that I have been used to doctors doing for me all my life. My shiny picture of doctors being able to fix me with a wave of thier magical pen and prescription pad has been tarnished. Coleen DON'T watch daytime TV....Steven King couldn't write a story scarier then some of the woman on Maury or Springer. with such titles as "I don't know my babies daddy" and "I think my step dad is my babies daddy" Just switch it off!!! Its upsetting. You sit there and think....she gets a baby? What is she 12 herself? Its almost as bad as watching the news.

Alyssa, your post had me laughing because it's all true. My husband is a lot like you. He just can't understand why they can't "fix" things or why there is no guarantee after spending soooo much money with these fertility doc's. On a lighter note, you know my RE's office learned that my husband had strep through his sperm sample? and then they took a culture of my cervix to see if I had it too. I said, "Why can't you just swab my throat like normal doctors do?" Needless to say, we both had it. To change the subject, what surprises me is that it took me switching doctors for anyone to do an intravaginal U/S and to discover these fibroids. One is two inches long! How could I go through an HSG etc... and noone noticed them all this time??? I feel like so much time has been wasted already. I also agree with the daytime TV thing...I would go nuts if I watched all that stuff. That's why I stick with HGTV and stuff if I am home during the day. I try to keep happy vibes running through my veins!!

Okay, Okay! No more daytime TV:) It makes me think, "Well, my life is not that bad." But you're right, it also makes me think, "How did she ever get preg?" Yestarday it was alot of - "Is my husband's brother my baby's daddy?" And "I'm testing the 12th man to see if he is the dad." I also agree about the fixing this? Why can't it be that easy? Have a great day ladies!!!

Oh my goodness - where did all you ladies come from?! Last time I checked this post, there were only a few women..now ..WOW! I'm so pleased to see that I'm not the only one on pregnancy-info.net who's in her 30's and no bfp's to be had. Wait, no..I'm not pleased that you all are having ttc troubles, but you know what I mean. Anyway, it makes me feel good that I started the post (I felt a little silly at the time). Let's keep this post going ladies, I think it's great to support each other since we're all in the same boat. All I ask is that you not ALL get pg before me..if you do, I'll scream! :) Sorry, I chat on another post, and every woman on there at one point got pg but ME! At the start, we were all having a hard time ttc-ing... Seriously, I really do wish you all a sweet baby to call your own and I want it very badly for myself too. How's that? :) It just doesn't seem fair to have to struggle with something as wonderful as wanting a baby. Alyssa, I think I need that shirt your dh got you - if/when I'm back on the evil Clomid. I'm happy to say that I don't watch those bad tv shows, but yes it would be completely frustrating to see these questionable women get pg when we're all just waiting!!!! Colleen, have you tried the 'hero' approach with your dh? What I mean is that I think deep down what matters most to our men is that we admire them and need them. If you explain the IUI in a way that it's all about how much he'd be doing it for you and to make you happy, maybe he wouldn't be so caught up in feeling like he's a failure as a man for doing iui? (I suspect that might play a part in why he's grumpy and it's understandable). Anyway sweetie, good luck with that, I'm sure that he loves you and eventually will be willing to do what it takes to help you get your bfp. Or, maybe we'll all get pg spontaneously this next cycle..I vote for that. I also hate the bloatedness that Clomid gives you. It always made me feel like all those around us who're awaiting a baby annoucement are looking at my bloated belly and thinking.."ooh, maybe they're finally pg". It's like, NOPE ..we're not, but thanks for making me feel worse about it! Anyway, it's nice to have you all on here to chat with..let's keep the support going ladies and hope that God believes women in their 30's are allowed to be Mom's too!!! :)

Colleen, I just realized that your story sounds a lot like my best friend (who's now 26 weeks pg). Her husband was too macho (or whatever) for IUI, and he refused to get an SA done. They'd been ttc-ing for about a year when I asked her if she knew for sure when O was. I suggested that she try OPK's. Well! Turns out that she was O-ing on CD6! (she had a short cycle) Yes, that early! So, if she'd never tried the OPK's, she wouldn't be pg right now. So I guess that means, if I'd never told her about OPK's, she wouldn't be going on and on about her pregnancy every time I see her or talk to her. Hmmmm... :) Oh well, I am happy for her. Anyway, I'm SURE you know when you're O-ing, but I thought, juuust in case (since your situation sounded similar) I'd tell you my friends' story. Good luck and we'll talk to you soon!

Hi, I will be turning 34 in a month and DH and I ttc for the last 3 months. I got off bcp in march and this is my 3rd month of ttc. It feels like forever....DH says not to get overly worried since we just started, but you know....you want it now! I feel like we should find an infertiltiy clinic, but I don't think I can get dh to go there yet. It's frustrating that you have to wait a whole 3 weeks for O-lol. Lots of baby dust to all of you.

You know I have to say I that reading alot of these posts makes me feel lucky to have the great hubby that I do. His sense of humor thought this has been wonderful. When I wanted to start tests, he said he would do whatever I wanted him too but I had to go with him and hold his hand. When the doctor sat us down and told us he had a low motility and a low morphology, he just kind chuckled and said," So they are slow and confused...yep they are mine" I was diagnosed with low progesterone levels, and ultimately I think there is something else wrong but only time will tell. But through this all, the clomid mood swings (wow and are they bad) the progesterone hibernation. (I actually fell asleep on the phone one day it makes me so tired.) And the constant talk of cycles, mucus and all things not manley, he has been a prince. I have a question...How many of you have already looked at a lot of baby stuff and picked out mentaly what you want and don't want? Am the only one that is planning that far ahead? I actually bought a little Texas Tech Onesie to give to the hubby if I get pregnant. Am I wrong to do this till I get pregnant?

I know what you mean Alyssa, by picking out things you want for the baby already. I do that a lot. I have started to clean up one room in my house for a nursery. I am a planner, so I plan things well in advance. Being a avid planner, it is very easy to get disappointed tough. Every month you think this is the one...