Anyone from Colorado out there?
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annahoban7 - October 16

Lori, how are things going? Any sign of af or pregnancy symptoms?

 

celestia1977 - October 16

Hi all - well, as if the drama in my life couldn't get any worse - I never used to have drama - I found out last night that my SH (sh**ty husband) has been having sex with another woman for the past six months. He also had sex with another woman 2 years ago - AND, he's had sex with another man (one of his "friends"!) Ewwww! I am divorcing him asap, and the baby thing is no longer in the cards. I hope things are better with all of you :-)

 

annahoban7 - October 16

OH my God, celestia, I am so sorry. What a bastard. I hope he didn't give you anything. Good luck with your divorce and continue to lean us for support if you need to. Again, so sorry.

 

lorih - October 17

Kirsten,
I am so sorry to hear about your husband. I agree with Anna, what a bastard. Please always feel free to vent if you need to. The only biright side I can see is that you will be freed up to meet someone who will treat you much better. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help and I am so sorry you are having to go through this, that really sucks. I am now 8dpo and have felt like I am coming down with a cold which happened in my last pregnancy. Off and on cramps and weird twinges in my abdomen. I am going to try and hold out on testing until 10 dpo, I will keep you posted. Kirsten, if you ever need a girls night out I am not far even if it is just for dinner. Take care.

 

celestia1977 - October 18

Hi...well, I suspected this for about a month now and found out about Kathy by looking at his email - she was emailing him about times to meet and everything. When I confronted him about it, he said he didn't want to tell me what was going on because he knew I would leave him. I told him he better tell me the truth because he's always stated I should "trust" him. Whenever I suspected anything, he would turn it around on me and say it's my "jealousy and insecurity". I got him to spill out everything that happened with all three of them. I'm soooo glad I'm not pregnant now! God knew what he was doing! I don't know what he was thinking. I moved into my parents' house and have been going back to get my stuff piece by piece. Yesterday, he was crying (I've never seen him cry), and he told me he was sooo sorry, and to please forgive him, and to not leave. I felt so bad, but I kept my distance and when he blew me a kiss, I just said, 'Bye' and took off. Then, I cried my eyes out all night long. In the last three days, I've gotten about 8 hours of sleep over all, and have not eaten much. I'm only eating lunch today because my work is paying for it. I'm not really hungry. I get to go tonight and get my kitties. I miss them sooo much! Then, he has the balls to tell me today that if I don't choose to be with him, he doesn't want to be lonely, so he will move in with Liz (who is another person altogether that I had suspected, but he says "nothing happened because she respects the ring".) He sure didn't. He keeps asking my forgiveness and telling me to come back home, and I'm trying so hard to just get everything moved out and packed up and move on. Why does life have to suck so much? Both my grandpas died this year too. We were together for 7 years! At least it's not 20. I'm ready to swear off men altogether at this point, but I know I'll change my mind after things calm down. Thank you for your kind words and support :-) I appreciate it! Thank you, Lori for the dinner invitation. I would like that, and I'll let you know when the best time is for me. Right now I'm just concentrating on getting my stuff out. I have a LOT of stuff! I'm amazed! I get to figure out tonight how to incorporate 2 cats with my parents' dog...should be interesting :-)

 

lorih - October 18

I can only imagine how aweful this must be to go through after being together for such a long time. One thing to think about is someone else will have to take care of his unemployed ass! I guess that could be viewed as a positive. Let me know when you feel up to being around people I am only 5 minutes away.

 

lorih - October 19

Anna,
I just wanted to check in with you to see how you are feeling and what symptoms you have had so far. I am 10 dpo and got a bfn this morning. I had a drop in temperature below coverline yesterday and now it is back up. I have been feeling a little off, so I am hoping that maybe in a couple of days it will be positive. What dpo did you test positive and what made you test? Did you test negative before positive? How did your tests go? Thanks and I hope you are doing well.

 

annahoban7 - October 19

Hey Lori, I did get many bfn before my bfp. I jumped the gun quite a bit. 10dpo is still really early, though that is when I tested positive I did a lot of reading and found that for a large percentage of women, even with the most sensitive tests usually don't get positives until 14-16 days dpo. Don't get too upset, you still have some time. All of my tests have come back just fine, 6 weeks pregnant right now. DH is really hoping for a boy but we really don't care. Hope that helps. Good luck to you!! Keep me posted.

 

celestia1977 - October 19

Anna, that's so cool! I'm glad you are pregnant :-) Lori, thank you, I will let you know. I'm getting everything out on Saturday and then going from there.

 

lorih - October 22

Hi girls, how are you doing? Kirsten, I hope your move went ok, I am sure it was pretty rough on you. I have taken 3 test all -. I am 13 dpo do I am losing hope. I stopped using the progesterone last night so hopefully my af will start soon. Of course I am still hoping that I will still get a bfp but don't think it will be too likely. Anna, How are you feeling?

 

celestia1977 - October 27

Lori, I'm sorry it's been a while since I checked in. It turns out that we are staying together after all! We talked a LOT over the weekend and he said he was very, very sorry for everything. I must be crazy, but I decided to give him another chance. I guess I'm just too nice (or stupid!) Anyway, he's been very attentive and open and honest with me. He's always told me that he doesn't want to tell me the truth of things because he doesn't want to hurt me. I finally told him I would MUCH rather have the truth than have him lie to me, cause that hurts much worse. He says he will give me the truth from now on. He's been point blank with the truth of everything, to the point that I hurt, so I know it's true. We've had more open, honest communication in the last week than we have in the last 7 years! I just hope we're able to make it, but time will tell.

 

lorih - October 27

Kirsten,
I sure hope things work out for you. You are the only one who has been in the relationship and the only one to decide if it is worth keeping together, so don't let anyone give you a hard time about it. Either path you choose in this situation is going to be difficult and hopefully he has learned to show you a little more respect and that you are worth more than what he has been giving. Not much new with me just that I got AF a few days ago so I am on to round #3. I hope 3 really is the charm because I am ready for this journey to be over. Are you guys still planning on resuming at the beginning of the year? Thanks for writing again, I was getting lonely and thought I had lost all my new friends. Can you tell I have way to much time by myself at work? Glad you are back and doing better!

 

celestia1977 - October 30

Hi Lori! Sorry I haven't written in a while. We're still doing well, or at least as well as can be expected. He's been treating me a lot better in the last week, but it's only been a week. I hope it lasts. Actually, we're talking about giving up on me being pregnant and maybe on babies altogether. I'm afraid to have a kid if he does this again. I know that might not sound like a good reason to quit, but I think, for now, that I don't want to do this. If we do decide, down the road, to have a kid, I think it will be by adoption. I don't know if I can handle pregnancy. But, we still have one donor vial left at the clinic, so who knows? Time will tell. Sorry that you got AF. I haven't gotten mine yet, and I'm on CD 33. I think it'll be coming soon though. No chance of me being pregnant, unless it's by immaculate conception LOL Anyway, I hope round 3 works for you. Good luck and lots of baby dust :-)

 

lorih - November 2

I don't blame you at all fro wanting to wait and see where things go. It would be pretty difficult to add a kid to the mix. I hope for the best for you guys, good luck.

 

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