Anyone else feel theres not much help out there?
7 Replies
Sally - September 2

hi, i am 30 and I have been ttc for 9 months and i got another negative result today, after an hour of crying i called my hubby at work and told him and he was loving as usual but no matter how much he is wonderful its not like talking to another woman in the same possition.
I have looked for help and found this web site, which is great but sometimes you just need a friend to cry on. there are so many places to go for help and advice if your giving up smoking or drugs or alcohol etc, but noone tells you how hard it is to cope when ttc! and if i hear "dont worry it will happen one day just relax" once more i will go mad. My friends are all lovely but 2 had babies by not trying very hard so dont understand and 2 dont want children so i dont really have any understaning friends in the same possition. i was wondering if there is anyone out there that would like an email pen pal? My email is [email protected] feel free to mail me for someone to lean on.


Karen - September 2

Hi Sally... I am sorry you are in such despair! I know how you feel. I haven't been ttc as long as you (my husband and I have been trying for 7 months now w/ no luck) but believe me I am depressed. Everyone keeps saying the same thing to me about relaxing but what gets me is ALL my friends except for 2 b/c they haven't tried to get prego yet, just quit taking their birth control pills and got prego like the next month! Everyone I work with or hear about on TV is prego! I don't even want to think about it anymore. Anyway thanks for letting me vent but I just wanted to say I know how you feel and I wish you luck! :-)


hay - September 2

hi i no just how u feel i have been trying to concive for nearly 3 years now with baby num 1 i have also felt like giving up but dnt it will make u stonger honstly, talking about it will also help .


Sally - September 2

Thanks both of you, i do feel better now i have read a few of peoples experiences from people like you two. In a strange way it good to know im not alone, but horrid for all you others. i cant belive i spent 7 years with my husband trying not to get pregnant until our lives were perfect. now look we waited so long, why dont people tell you its this hard?????
Anyway thanks again, good luck to you both.


Try this - September 3

I had been trying to get pregnant for 1 year and six months without success. I went to the fertility specialist, but their prices were just too high for me ($3,000 US DOLLARS per month, no guarantees).

I decided to do some research and took the following herbs:
1. FEM RESTORE (herbs in liquid form. Dark brown bottle with green letters. Found in any good health food store). Nasty taste, but worth the suffering.
2. Crystal Start Female Harmony: 4 pills per day.
3. Deluxe Evening Primrose Oil: 4 pills per day.

I took these herbs for about 1 1/2 months. I started with the beginning of my period and took until the next periods (irregular periods). Then I took VITEX (another nasty tasting herb) just for a few weeks and now I am 2 months pregnant! I just saw my baby’s heartbeat yesterday. Please write me to [email protected] if you have any questions. I wish you the best of luck. Put a little of God on this mix too and you will have a winning bet.


Ana C. Rowling


Christy - September 3

I know how you all feel! I have been ttc for 2 and 1/2 years. The dr. has put me in the category of "unexplained infertility" as all of our test results are fine. The hardest part is dealing with everyday things. I am a nurse and one day at work ( 1 week after a miscarraige ) I was taking care of a girl who was 3 mo preg and didn't care. She also has been a heavy heroin user and had infected track marks on her arms. When I was done taking care of her and keeping myself together I went to the bathroom and cried for 1/2 hour. Why does she get to be preg and not me? I think of that girl often and hope the best for her baby. I know our time will come. I really believe that God has a plan for all of us. I just wish he would hurry up!


Karen - September 3

Hi Christy... I understand your feelings perfectly... Why is it that people who don't want kids always end up with a bunch of kids they mistreat! I can't stand it... How do all of you deal with your friends being pregnant? I have decided to keep my problems getting prego to myself .... I just don't know how to talk about it and I don't want to be a downer for my friends are prego. Good night :-)


Christy - September 3

Hi Karen! You can talk to me about it! My friends are afraid to tell me about getting pregnant and I don't want them to be. I quit telling them things because I think they are tired of hearing about it. Excuse me for getting personal but have you been to a doctor or had any tests done yet?



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