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Good Morning.... CC, Congrats on the no pantyliner!!!! I am so happy for you..(ha, ha). As for an RE appointment...I called yesterday on my way to a meeting and the lady who answers the phone (she has really gotten to know us after 2 years) said....I can sqeeze you in at 4pm on Wednesday can you make it? I said...I have lots of questions so I hope it is not sqeeze in and cannot talk. She assured me I can have a chat with my RE. So, it looks like I will be leaving early to pick up DH (he wants to go) and head to RE. I'll let you know if we get a plan in place for June. Lori...I like CC am so excited for today and tomorrow. We want details chick!!!!! This is so exciting. Shauna, I wish there was a way to make this easier!!!! UGH, I was just telling dh yesterday how difficult it is to get the BFN. If no one you know understands, we do so lean on us to get you through this. Okay...gotta start work if I am leaving an hour early. chat with y'all tonite. Have a great day!!!!!

Good morning ladies!! CC - Happy for you that you are pad free!! It's like a breath of fresh air. TMI coming up - I have been having to wear one. It seems that with this cold, almost every time I cough I have a little bladder leakage... it is driving me nuts!! I don't know if that has anything to do with the fact that at least my ankles have not swollen up for this cycle, lol!! Shauna - sorry to hear about your BFN - but, we always say it isn't over til AF shows!! Keep us posted. JCR - I can't wait to hear whether it is a boy or girl!! It is so sweet to see that Ryley is excited about having a brother or sister!! Well, today is 1 of 2 big days for us!! I am so excited that I had trouble sleeping last night!! We have to be at Johnny's agency to read the records at 10:30 this morning. It will probably take between 2 - 4 hours for reading and signing. I just wish that we could pick him up for good today!! But, I guess I have to be patient. On another note: AF is due today, I wonder if she will show with all the excitement going on??? I wouldn't be surprised if she is a few days late for this cycle. Another thing, that I guess I am not too patient about, lol!! Well, everybody have a GREAT day!! I'll check back when I can.

Lynn - Can't wait to hear what your RE has to say today!! Hope you get a good plan in place for your next cycle!!

Hey ladies. Good Morning. I had a laproscopy too. except mine was for appendisitis (sry if it is spelled wrong). so i too have that funny scar on my belly button. and two others one ended up big. lol. the story behind the big scar below... got the staples out and did the bd with my ex (who i was with at the time) just a couple hours later. and split the one right open. LMAO now. I panicked. Tracy i agree with everyone else. put it too dh how would you feel if it were your balls.!!! sorry things are so hectic. CC yes congrats on the no pantyliner!!! Lori. I hope everything goes well today which i am sure it will.. NO AF< NO AF.. I am doing a chant now... Shauna sorry about the BFuglynotwanted Negative. :o( ***********Lynn I agree. No ones knows about the bfn when you are ttc. Dh and I should have done the bd last night. But of course he got home and had to run out. I said to him this morning. Another month goes by. He said "nooooo. you never know. The good thing is i noticed we did it the day before the ewcm showed and the 2days of. but we missed the day after. I wasn't paying attention up until now... got to get my mind off of it. Yes PT is giving me a bad report. The imflamation has went up higher and into my itband in my thigh which is what the tendon is called up there. So i will find out monday if the dr will operate or not. CAN i just share with everyone. I have been needed to just say it out loud. MY PT is Hot and i get friction massages.. which feels great at the time but hurts after.. friction hands on!!!. LOL. Had to say it. Now i feel better. *****dumdedee.****. Since I have gotten the mammo results back i feel better. I am still waiting for ultrasound results though. AND ladies please keep your fingers crossed. dh has a meeting today with work and it doesn't sound good. He keeps hearing about people getting laid off. I am waiting to hear from him. the meeting though is still an hour away. Makes me very nervous and him too!! JCR do you have names picked out already for either sex of the baby? My how time if flying. I will be on and around. Bellyrubs and Babydust!!

Boy, its a sad day for me when I am getting congrats on no panty liner! Thanks though, you all gave me a good laugh about that. Lori, thinking of you today...Hope the reading of the records is going smoothly w/ no surprises. Hopefully you will get Johnny, a BFP, and release of your panty liners all in that order! Lynn, Im glad you called the RE..See, I didnt even have to gently nudge. I'll be anxious to hear how your appointment goes. d, you are crazy having sex right after your lap!!! Sounds like your PT isnt working as well as it should be, prob a good thing they are going to re-evaluate on Monday. Hey-at least your PT guy is HOT! That made me laugh. Keep us posted. Having the mammo come back ok must have been a huge relief, when are you suposed to hear about the u/s? Let us know about your dh, I hope he doesnt get laid off, that would be horrible. Shauna, sorry for the BFN. Maybe you tested too soon? EMM-how are you?? Tracy-you ok ?

Good Afternoon. CC: You hit it right on the head with the too soon statement....if I had waited til tomorrow I would have saved myself $7. CD1 today. : (

Oh Shauna, Im sorry : (

Hi everybody! Well, today went off with just a minor hitch. We were not able to sign the intent to adopt and even though we can pick up Johnny tomorrow and he IS ours... we have to have him evaluated and do a financial production sheet on what his expenses will be for the next year. We have 30 days to do this!! I guess they weren't happy with us asking for the maximum subsidy for him. But, I only did that because I just don't know what his future needs may be because he is only two... how can anyone actually "judge" how functional he will be at say... age 8??? They are very understanding of this and are very willing to help us complete the sheet. They also want us to "recertify" as foster parents because they are very interested in moving Johnny's little brother Zachary into our home also.. but, he is still in legal limbo. They also mentioned the new baby... which is another boy (not a girl like we thought)... he is still with mom but they are watching her closely and it looks like he may come into care too... for the life of me I can't remember his name though. I am just soooo excited that Johnny will be with us for good tomorrow that when AF showed up... I just had a momentary "oh no heart palpitation" and was able to move on. (She showed at the agency on a bathroom break while reading the records!!) Ok, I am going to ramble on... My little guy is going to need surgery to fix a "botched" circumcision! I was just under the impression (based on changing him) that he was not circumcized. I was flabbergasted to learn in his records that he was!! Mom is mild MRDD... Dad well, I just don't know if he just didn't get the proper education or if he also is mild MRDD. Both of them have a police record a mile long. Mom actually spent 6 months in jail shortly after Johnny was born. Mom admits to the use of "uppers" and "downers" but not during pregnancy. Dad admits to an alcohol problem as a teenager but not now. Johnny weighed 9 lbs 3 oz at birth but was only 18" long. He scored a 7 on his birth evaluation (I forget what they call it). That is basically the extent of his records. With all that being said... My mind was made up before we read his records... I look at it like this: Who knows what we will get when we have a child biologically... would we give up that child if they had any disabilities? Our RE gave us odds of 1 in 20 that we would have a DS baby and there we were month after month still trying!! Point being we just don't know what the future holds... Johnny could have been a biological child only by a different name. Well, that about sums up my day. Thanks for listening!!

Lori: how exciting you. You have the right attitude about the disabilities thing. I see so many babies in FC that just are neglected because they are 'different'. Good for you!!! What a great Mothers Day you will have. What a bad time for AF to show tho. lol

Lori--Your post made my eyes tear up and smile all at the same time. I dont blame you for asking for the max, because you are right..Who knows what the future holds for him as far as that goes. How long has he been in foster care ? What an awful way to come into this world for him. But-how lucky he is going to be now for the rest of his life to have you and dh as parents. His brother Zachary must not be more then 1, if there is even a smaller one after him?? (Mom seems to be having them every year?)..Where is Zachary now and why in legal limbo, and how old is the baby. I was a little shocked to read the baby is still w/ Mom. Would you be interested in all 3 ? Didnt you say she had a total of 5? Where are the other 2? How is your DH feeling about all this? Tomorrow what happens, you pick him up and thats the end as far as tomorrow goes?? Geez!! This is a lot to digest and Im not even involved! Can you believe it, that this is becoming a REALITY for you!!
WOW! Talk about life changing events..
Im sorry about AF, but you are blessed right now in other ways. Are you done w/ the RE, the meds, etc? This all seemed to have happened so fast, although Im sure for you, it feels like slow motion. Im just happy for you!!

Hey ya'll...I'm ok. Just been going to the gym in the morning and then to work, so my schedule has been hogged up. So, I called and have the appointment for the sono on May 31 and they are trying to schedule the lap for after my period starts (which will be here the first week in june). If by chance I don't need the lap, then we will just cancel it, but I didn't want to have to wait around for another month for them to have an opening. Ever since they did the ultrasound I have been having pain, not too bad, but noticable, and my period has come back. After the first two days of bleeding incessantly, AF was pretty much gone, but is now hanging out with me. It's enough to need a tampon for. Also, my blood test for Adrenal Hyperplasia came back normal, so that is good, but doesn't explain why I have high DHEAS. Lori-glad AF didn't mentally affect you this time. Must be a good feeling. D-glad you have a little eye candy to get you through your painful therapy. Shauna-AF is a bitch! Sorry you got a visit. CC-yeah! pantyliner free......let loose girl! Well, I am going to take a shower. Being the stinky ho that I am, I did not shower after the gym today, and went to work smelly!!!!! I did not care to be honest. Lynn, what's the plan stan???? JCR-plump and feeling happy????

Tracy - I am glad to hear that your blood test came back normal. It sounds like you are doing the things that you have to do to get to where you want to be. I am now a firm believer in wishes coming true! I truely feel it in my heart that you will be a mom some day!! CC - "legal limbo" means that Zachary can not be legally adopted yet, parental rights have not been terminated (the system has to wait a certain amount of time), being that we are only adoptive parents, we would not be able to have him until all legal rights of the parents are terminated. But if we are foster parents then we can have him before rights are terminated. The youngest is just a month old. I have no idea why he is still with his mom??? Johnny came into care at about 1 - 2 months old. As far as taking all three, WOW!! We probably would if it came down to that. The funny thing is, is that DH asked me just a bit ago "when is she going to pop out a little girl if she keeps on having them?" He still wants a daddy's girl!! And if we are taking siblings... how many more are to come??? Any of the others are a little down the road anyway because we have to go through the classes again and be fingerprinted... and all that jazz. I am actually glad of that because that will give me some time alone with Johnny to be HIS mom first. Gosh, I hope I can sleep tonight!! Check back later.

Lynn - how did your appointment go???

hey all....Gosh, so much to touch on...I think we are going to get another thread going if we keep this up...lol. Okay, let's see how good my memory is: Lori, A new mommie. How exciting!!!!!! Happy First Mommy Day!!!!!! I am so glad you went into this with your mind already made up. As for your statement about having abiological child with a disability....I live it day after day and understand that statement clearly. Also, you cannot say having 2 perfect parents make a perfect child. My roommate in college adopted a little girl at birth. Both parents are college educated, they have full medical records of both and at three she is showing signs of Asperger (Extremely Bright) a form of Autism, so...... I was not completely following what you were saying about maximum allowance....what is that? Like CC said, so much to digest and we are not even involved. Hey and 2 more kids to think about......what do you and dh think about that??????? When it rains it pours (in a good way). I am glad AF did not hinder the moment. Tracy, stinky.......if you did not want to shower so be it. I feel like that on the weekends. I vote you follow the protocol of the doctor you are seeing and go with it. I so hope you do not need the Lap but hey...look at what us girls are willing to go through. I give you credit.... I am a baby and would not voluteer for a Lap. Shauna, sorry you spent $7.00, but as you said...once you take one she shows. UGH!!!!! Now onto a new cycle. It seems must of us are pretty close again. D, I figure if we keep going on like this either we will catch up to you or you will catch us on the AF front. My hope is we all wind up BFP and having kids at the same time. EMM, don't believe we have heard from you in a while. Is everything okay? JCR, 2 more days until U/S. Is Riley going with you to the doctor? CC, pantyliner free... celebrate!!!!! I am kidding. What else is happening? Do not foget to get that practice BDing in. If you can kind of keep it going.....dh won't catch on. Hey are you doing another IUI in June? If so, are you doing injections also? Okay...My appointment...I had to wait for 40 minutes to see the RE for 30 minutes. UGH. anyway, our plan is to do a cycle of IUI with donated follistim in June. He is figuring AF to show around June 4th give or take and beginning it sometime then. He says everything is fine and think we have a shot on our own but he is wanting us to do IUI+injections because I am 38. I was warned I am at a higher risk for another ectopic because when I do injections it slows the way your fallopian tube moves and that is how it got stuck and implanted there 9 months ago. SO, plan is IUI+injections in June. Then he said, hey it is only cd 7 and early in the cycle....get busy and get it done. I laughed and said we have been trying. Anyway, that is where I am stuck. Good things for mommies...mine is funding June for us. She is a GREAT mom. Oh on a different note....If I would have not had an ectopic 9 months ago...I was due to deliver today..How fitting to be at the RE. UGH...hurt a little. Oh well, if no ectopic, I would not have met a bunch of wonderful online girlie friends. Thanks for your friendship girls.

Ok, if we need to talk about tv programs, what the HELL happened tonight on American Idol??? ( Yes, I am 43 but love the show!!)... That chick Kat should have went home!!! Ok, I did my little rant. Lynn - I am sooo happy that you will be doing IUI w/injectables this next go around!! Let your mom know how great she is and give her a great mother's day!! CC - is that also going to be your protocol. Lynn - the maximum subsidy is the maximum amount of money that the state or federal government will pay out each month when a special needs child is going to be adopted. It varies .. even by counties within a state. Johnny is Title IV - E eligible which means that state pays 60% of the total and the Federal gov. pays 40% of the total. My MIL said she read that for the county Johnny comes from the maximum is $650. I just don't know if he is going to need special schooling that requires tuition, etc... so if I already had the money in place for that type of thing I would rest a lot easier. Well, I have talked too much tonight. Have a good one everybody!!

Lori, I had to laugh at the commeny about Idol. I am 38 and have never watched it until this year. I am a transplant to NC but of all the NC people, Chris did belong there. I have no clue what people were thinking. My thought is...I did not vote so I cannot bitck if I do not agree (that is just me). It is kind of like voting...I do not like what is going on but....I did not vote so, my own fault. I will say so far all the news stations are stunned and it is all over down here. I agree...Kat should have gone. I agree my mom is pretty great. I need to think hard for something for her. I was going to steal D's flower delivery.. Talk to you all in the morning.