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Bleon - July 14

Hi, this is my first time writing in a forum of this kind. I didn't even knew forums like this existed until recently.

My husband and I had been trying to have a baby for what would be a year already. At the beginning it wasn't that much of a problem. "This things take time." That was what we told each other but as the time began to pass we became a little more and more anxious about it. Well I say we but in true maybe it was only me who was anxious. I never seen him get stressed about it but maybe he was just hiding it I don't really know. When we began trying I was really looking forward to the idea of starting a family, I knew it would be hard at the beginning but I really wanted us to have a child. But right now I can't help but think if my wish will ever come true.

After the first six months I consider talking with my husband about going to a specialist and see if there was a problem with any of us. But never talked with him as many concerns were inside my head. Maybe I was overreacting? Maybe we just needed more time to have baby? Those questions plagued my mind. I didn't knew if this concerns were common, I talked with my mom about this. Asked her if she ever had any of this though when she was trying to conceive me or my brothers.She told me she never had felt worried, that it was normal for it to take its time and I should take it easy. As you can imagine her confidence only make me feel worse, so I seeked other opinions so asked my friends and aunts. The answer was the same as my mom and so I decided to wait and keep trying along with my husband.

Now it had been a year, and my husband suggest it. We schedule a visit for this coming monday and I'm really nervous about what is about to happen. I need to ask, are we being too rash? Should we really see an specialist or is still too soon? Am I just exaggerating about all this? I know maybe I should have this talk with my husband but as I see him so calm and confident about this situation I can't help but think maybe this is all me overthinking this issue.



emma spencer - September 24

6. I was carrier oriented person. I used to work 24/7. My job was extremely stressful but after promotion I thought to get married. After settling myself we thought to have baby as we owe the apartment and other facilities. Having baby at that time sounded affordable. We start trying for couple of months nothing happens. I didn’t feel the need to contact doctor. As these things take time. But after year when I didn’t conceive. I visited doctor. He ran few tests and diagnosed me with thin uterus lining due to low estrogen levels. I took the treatments. Fertility massages and GCSF but not worked. Its been 8 years now I am 44 years and not able to conceive yet. But still looking for recommendations and suggestions.


zawadipet - September 27

Dear, Bleon.
I will share with you a few things that can help. If you have been smoking, then you need to discard it. I would rather you keep off cigarettes and alcohol, women who smoke are thrice more likely to have problems in getting pregnant. When going intimate with your hubby, try the missionary position with a cushion underneath the bottom, which has posted success among some couples, just try it. You need to check your Body Mass Index, it should not be too high and neither should it be too low. Avoid losing too much weight too quickly. When TTC you need to take care of your body, don't put yourself through very rigorous and strenuous training regimes. Thorough training floods your body with adrenaline, this communicated to the body telling it that it is not ready to conceive. In case you have been in strenuous workouts then check your training. When you are TTC, you need not focus on the present and not the long-term goal of becoming pregnant; this will make things to be less overwhelming for you and your husband. Abstain from alcohol. Lastly, you should talk to your husband about other things apart from conception.


Arose - September 30

Hi, Bleon,
I think you should take it easy and allow things to take a natural course. For other readers, I would like to know how long you have been in a marriage and why you think that you should see a specialist. You have said that your husband seems not to care about what is happening. He is not bothered whether you have a child at the moment or not. I think you are just in a hurry and that maybe it is your husbands wish to delay conceiving. Second, it is important that you discuss this with your husband and come to an agreement before you think about TTC. Just as your mother pointed out, there are cases when TTC will take a little bit longer and so you need to remain steadfast and continue TTC. Hope you are aware that the right time to conceive is around the ovulation period. So I would advise that you try to have sex around that period before you decide to visit a specialist.



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