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Impatient...I know exactly how you feel. You are not being selfish in any way. You do deserve this gift and you will get it . Who ever thought that this would take so long for so many of us who are ready and deserving? I certainly didn't....it has been 2 1/2 years for us with 3 m/c along the way. Two years ago today was the first time I heard my first baby's heart beat and it is still fresh in my mind. Hang in there sweetie, vent all you want. It won't do you any good to keep it inside. I wish you all the best and hope that you get your miracle soon.

good luck. i know where you are coming from. i have been married six years got prego ones lots the baby around 5 months and half but it took us five years and now i can't seem to get prego again. i am looking at having my hubby sperm plant in me. i don't know yet. i posted a topic asking what all do they do and such to see what it's like first. good luck.. (sending some baby dust your way to help)

are you relying on God to help you. i am doing my best to rely on God and thats helps me the most of anything or any words can express. so, just ask Him to help you and be patient as He responds. thats the best advice and most sincere advice that i can give.

Relying on god is what i have been doing lately. Im actually starting to go to church because i found it helps me! And i havent been to church since i was a kid. Earlier this month I got a bfp on 2 hpts, but the next day started bleeding alot, went to the er, and they said it was a very early pregnancy. for some reason i just dont believe that. i dont feel like i was even pregnant. But that one day that i got 2 positive results was probably the best day of my life because of how much happiness i had, its a wonderful feeling. And i wish all the preg woman out there would understand that etc.. i TRULY believe my problem is my tubes. when i was younger i almost died from a rptured appendix, got 2 surgerys. so my theory is that my tubes are blocked. i think im going to ask the doc for either the hcg or lap. im so done with clomid. took 4 months of it, prog was fairly high, usually in the 20's, i ovulate on my own so i really dont think i need that.

i know how it feels it's been 2 years for me now.. and it seems to get harder.. because i have now seen my older sister have two kids and my baby sister have a set of twins.. and none of them plan these pregnancies.... i think the good thing about this website is we have each other to understand...

yeah i dunno what to do about it anymore. i know im young, 22 so i have time. but i want to be a young mom. and my husband as well wants to be a young father. hopefully i can get another doc that will check out my tubes. i just really dont want to have to go thru the iui or ivf. but i will if it comes down to it. have u taken clomid ?

I understand totally how you feel, and just being able to vent to someone is the whole reason i went searching and found this website. I too have been trying now for 2 years...My whole life all i wanted to be was a wife and mother....Now that the wife part has been accomplished i want the mother part to happen. It drives me crazy when i see people in the street and at work with children that they don't even look after...Or they have more just so they get more money from Welfare...Children are a gift and all should be cherished.....It seems that those who would do a great job of being a parent find it hard to concieve or even maintain a pregnancy. I am now on my second round of Clomid potentially going onto my third. Today is a week from when i started spotting but it only lasted until Wednesday and since then i have had nothing. No spotting, no bleeding nothing but am too scared to take a pregnancy test because every time i do i get my hopes up just to have them dashed away again....AHHHH why does it have to be so hard for those who desire it so bad?

I understand too. It's been 2 years ttc for us with 1 m/c. I too had a very early m/c. And my worst fear is that I will never experience that joy again of seeing a bfp. It was an unbelievable feeling but short lived. After the m/c everyone was saying how quick i would get prego again (at that time i was only off bc pills for 3 months) and my mother went out and bought me tons of maternity clothes. I had a bad feeling deep down that i might have a problem getting prego again, and my gut was right. I just don't get it. I'm trying to leave it in God's hands too, i guess that all we can do. It's very hard when you're a control freak like me! I'm 31 and i always said i would have my first child by 25. I'm worried that my time is running out, i've always wanted 3 or 4 kids, now i don't know if i'll even get 1. Sorry this is soooo long but i've been wanting to vent for a while. Good luck everyone!

Impatient1-- I know too the agony of every arrival of AF. Have been tcc for 18 months now. The heartache is unbearable. Now that my four youngest were taken back (adoption process was almost done and a relative claimed them. Thousands later still no kids back) the pain of no further children is almost unbearable. I too rely on God to get me through. I think that is the only thing that has kept me sane at times. I wanted to say something too. I had an appendectomy about 5 years ago. It was not as serious as yours but they did emergency surgery to remove it. In August I had a lap to check things out. They found that I had scar tissue from the appendectomy that was completely crushing my right ovary and tube. I had had pain a lot but just didn't figure that it was anything too much. I have a high tolerance to pain so never thought to pursue looking into it. Because I has the lap I know now that I was ttc with only one ovary actually working. That cut my ttc chances in half at least. They also did the dye test then to make sure all was working fine, which it was. I would absolutely recommend for you to do the lap. It was not that bad and I would do it again if needed. I hope that gives you a little hope. You have been ttc for 2 years but if even one ovary/tube is not working possibly half of that time can be wasted months. Good luck. I hope I helped and did not discourrage you. Babydust Ellie

BTW- all the issues with the scar tissue were corrected with the lap and I was given a "clean Pelvis" bill of health.

elliemae-i really think thats the case with me. But i have had several pelvic/vaginal u/s's done, wouldnt they be able to see if my ovaries are ok? they always said everything looked good. hopefully its just my tubes. So did they fix ur ovary? if so is everything ok with it now? thanks for ur reply tho, it supports my theory.