Pregnancy symptoms yet always a negative
37 Replies
May - April 13

The friend issue is very hard for me too. YOu want to be supportive and happy bc you love them and are so happy for them, but it just tears me up inside. I find myself avoiding situations where I have to be with them bc the talk is just unbearable (not that I'm not happy for them). Very unhealthy and not right, I know. Feeling out of sorts bc I am pretty sure AF is coming tomorrow, but there is always next month, right?

 

Kellysomer - April 15

OMG you are all the same as me, im not the only one, my best friend and OH's ex wife are both PG, i cant stand the thought of my step son telling me how soon hell have a brother sister. I cry knowing how similar all that read this post are!

 

Heather - April 16

It's scary how many of us are going through this and feel this way. I needed to read this. I woke up this morning with AF. It crushed me. I have been trying for a year. Started out just having sex, then used ovulation sticks in the fall and switched to a $200 ovulation kit 2 months agao. I am always 30-31 days. I get the LH surge. I cramp when I ovulate. My face breaksout. I am so intuned with my body, but I can't seem to get it pregnant. The worst is every friend of mine has a child or is pregnant. It has become very difficult to hang around them. I can't even go to anymore baby showers. It's just too emotionally draining. It's not like me to be this way. But they start takling about pregnancy and you just sit there not fitting in or you cannot contribute to the conversation. People are startiing to feel sorry for me which annoys me also. I am sick of the cliches. "It will happen" or "Your so young" I'm 33. Or "Just relax and try not to think about it." I had 2 of my friends las week look at me and say " You look pregnant I can feel it." Which is horrible and gets inside your head because you think , there moms maybe they know something that I don't. You start to feel isolated like you don't fit into this parental group. And then you don't want to hang out with your friends because all they want to do is ask you how you're doing the minute they see you. I have never done this before, but you were the only ones I could talk to. Thanks so much for sharing. It's nice to know there is support out there. I wish all of you the best of luck and hang in there.

 

Amy - April 16

Heather, have you seen a fertility doctor? I ovulated every month too and could not get pregnant and that went on for 3 years!!!! There are many, many factors that contribute to fertility and w/ today's modern medicine, there are many options to fix fertility problems. I was in denial and very afraid to find out that I could never conceive and that is why I tried so long before going to a specialist, but in reality, had I gone earlier I may have had a baby by now! It only took me 3 months to get pregnant after seeing a specialist, u/f ended in m/c and I am trying again, but it took a big load off my shoulders just knowing what the problem was... it really made me feel more in charge of my body and empowered by what I found out.. I don't think everyone should see a fertility doctor, but if you have been ttc for 1 year and/or over 30, I wouln't wait any longer. Also, it may not be YOU! I know that many women or men think about that as a possibility. Knowing is power and relief.. and as far as people comments go, they just don't know what else to say.. especially if they have never been there. Yes, you are young and have plenty of time, but they only say that because they don't want you to loose hope... and you shouldn't! good luck to you! Keep in touch..

 

Heather - April 17

Thanks Amy for the advice. My yearly check up with my OB is due. I am going to talk to her and get things checked out. I am going to have my husband get checked also for piece of mind. Today is a new day. I feel much better today. It always takes me a day to get through the disappointment. When your regular and you know when AF is due, the last week of anticipation can be stressful. But once it comes it's sad, but a sigh of relief at the same time. Just knowing something I guess. I am much better today. Just reading all of these testimonials and yours has been comforting. Thanks. Best of luck to you.

 

amy - April 17

HI Heather.. I am glad you are feeling better and believe me, i thought I was preggo this month too... even got a faint + on HPT, only to have af the next day..it is very stressful and disappointing! But, now you have 2 more weeks to just try again! Also, I would recommend that you ask your OB to see a reproductive endocrinologist, and just a tip, when they do the semen analysis, ask them to do it at the time of ovulation and go ahead and have an IUI..It costs the same, because to do the semen analysis they have to "wash" the sperm and get a count, which is what they do for IUI (intrauterine insemination)... even if your dh's sperm is great, you may as well do it if it is going to cost you the same $$.. I don't know where you live or what insurance you may have, but my insurance doesn't cover infertility and this test and/or IUI cost me about $200.. which isn't toooo bad. Chin up and good luck! Keep me posted and let me know if you have any questions!

 

MizNusty - April 17

Maybe you should realize that those symptoms are how you experience pms. You will probably feel totally different if you get pregnant.

 

to miznusty - April 18

or is it miz-nasty? Are you bitter w/ your ttc battle? If you don't have anything nice to say, then maybe YOU should realize that you are not HELPING, so zip-it.

 

MizNusty - April 18

I already have two kids. I just don't get how someone can have the same symptoms each month befoe there period and not figure out that they are not pregnancy symptoms already.

 

*larna * - April 18

OMG i thought i was reading something that i may have written myself. it happens to me all the time this month i am just a bit more hopeful because i had the hsg test 2 weeks ago now. so fingers crossed and lots of baby dust ************************

 

To Miz-Nasty - April 18

Since you have 2 children, I am sure that you can look back and notice the pregnancy signs. Hindsight is pretty great thing. But for some women who have never been pregnant, it's hard to know. Don't be so closed minded? If you have nothing positive to contribute, then stay off of this board.

 

Heather - April 18

Hi Amy. I made an appointment with my OB today for a consultation. Thanks for all of the info. I will ask her about this when we meet next week. I'll keep you posetd. Take care.

 

Shawna - May 13

I feel the same way as all of you I took a pregnancy test a cople days ago cause my boobs were sore and I have never noticed them being osre with an other pms but it came back negitive I am suppose to start today ( I had used one of those 5 day early tests) but am usually late so i am pretty sure i am not pregnant my husband and I have only been married for 3 months so he keeps telling me not to worry that i will get pregnant but I still worry so he told me he was going to set up an appointment for me so I coul make sure everything wasd ok with my body so I could stop worring that I won't get pregnant. good luck to you all

 

Milissa - May 13

Ya Lifes a bitch ani't it"" the waiting the guessing the bullshit...then AF HAAAAAAAAA....

 

kia - May 14

I am going throught the same thing. I have one child. I want one by my husband. We just go into it because his daughters mother won't let him see her. It will be a year since he has seen her in Aug. I want to give him one. Nothings happening. Every month I wait and see and pray and I say: THIS MONTH IS THE MONTH. Baby dust to all.

 

christina - May 14

I am in the same boat and tired mentally and all, of saying this month is it and then my period comes, i am all week my breasts hurt, my period was light and hardly there and it is just teasing me, i sometimes feel like i shut down to keep myself in my own world of not knowing why i cant get pregnant! i never knew it was this hard, but we are trying so long we are giving it til the end of the summer and if nothing we are going to start getting into adoption. had to vent to! we are going out today and i seriously feel lately like not doing anything, i count the days to the next cycle, and this isnt like me. anyone else breaken down with me, thanks for listening!

 

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