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i know exactly how everyone (except yana) feels in here! my best friend is 21 and already has 2 beautiful children and when she complains about having them it makes me soo mad. dh and i have been trying for little over a year now with nothing. sometimes i feel like my negative thoughts towards these (lucky) mothers who complain about having their children are what keep me from being able to become pg. mg & BB & Sabrina~ you're all wonderful women and i wish you all the best luck in ttc. none of us are wrong for thinking the way we do...it's completely natural and normal to be jealous (or a b*tch) in situations like these...someone else has what we've been killing ourselves for months trying to get. just remeber that one day we will have our own bundles of joy and then someone will be jealous of us. :o)

To Sabrina-I totally feel your pain... There is nothing in this whole world that I would want or love any more than a baby... but that is proving to be a difficult thing for my DH and I. I have never had a 'normal' cycle and was finally diagnosed with PCOS when I was 19. Now I have an absolutely wonderful husband and have been TTC for 7 months and nothing... But we're on the road and will continue to try. But I went to a Christmas party yesterday and we had a surprise baby shower for a good friend of mine (all of the girls were college classmates of mine)-this is her first... I am incredibly happy for her... but then we all found out that another friend is also pregnant with her 3rd... I'm happy for her too... but hard not to get bitter. But they are great people so you try to get past the jealousy... then I have another friend who just makes me so sad... she is pregnant with her first... it happened easily... a nice person, but VERY self-absorbed, and NOT what I would call the parental type at all and all that she does is complain about the pregnancy. This same girl slept around like crazy in college and I visited the STD clinic on several occasions with her... and now... she is fine and pregnant... that is the thing that makes me angry... and if that makes me a bitch... then I am!!! We can't help but feel jealous when someone easily has what we try to desperately to get... and we'd all be fantastic parents... and we WILL be one day!!!
To Yana- I can't believe that you called Sabrina a Bitch!!! Aren't you the person who was spouting 'focus on love, life & happiness'? Hmmm... maybe you need to take your own advice! This forum is for support! Everyone is entitled to their own views! However we might not all see things like you do, but most of us will likely listen to your views, give it some serious thought, likely try it... after we eat some granola and organic tofu... and maybe we will find something positive in your beliefs... but you aren't going to get many 'converts' or 'followers' when you are outright rude to someone in obvious pain, looking for support! That dosen't seem like a very 'loving and happy' thing that you said to Sabrina!!!

Totally normal. Everytime I see a fifteen year old girl or hear about stories like mg's, I really feel resentful. Don't bat yourself up about it