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ryancoreysmom - May 15

Hi there everyone, I used to visit this forum often, but I have been away for a while. Just a brief history....I have a 9 1/2 year son, conceived unexpectedly, completely normal pregnancy when I was 19. I got married 4 years ago and have been trying for #2 ever sense. After a year & half, I was able to concieve via IUI, but I miscarried @ 6 weeks. I have been on Metformin again for almost 2 years now, and still nothing. My best friend just emailed me and told me that she is pregnant. (she started trying in Feb)...One part of me is so happy for her, but at the same time I am angry & jealous, and I don't even really want to talk to her right now. I don't like feeling this way, but I just can't help it. Any advice on how to handle the next 9 months so that I don't end up completely resenting her?

 

crystal74 - May 15

i know how your feeling. we have been ttc for 16 months now and my b/f told me she thought she was prego last week. i went off on her. she said she was never going to talk to me again. but then she said she understands and forgives me. after i apologized of course. it's a long story, but try not to go off on her. it just makes things more stressful. and now everybody thinks i'm crazy. she ended up with a/f thank god.

 

crystal74 - May 15

if your not ready to talk to her yet, then don't. go home and take a hot bath and relax with candles. that's always my escape. when your ready just wish her the best. good luck hun

 

ryancoreysmom - May 15

I won't do that, but I know, she's gonna wanna go shopping for baby stuff and then there will be the shower. I'm the best friend. I'll be expected to be there all smiling & happy. And I haven't stopped crying since I read the email. I just don't know how I'm gonna handle that.

 

crystal74 - May 15

i am so sorry. i hate that. it's not fair. i hope you get your bp soon. that way you can go shopping together. does she know you have been ttc?

 

ryancoreysmom - May 15

yes she knows, I have cried on her sholder may times the last few years...what makes it worse is that there are actually 3 of us who were best friends in high school....each a year apart...well the oldest got pregnant about 2 years after school, she had her daughter...a few months later the next one got pregnant & her duaghter was born, and a couple months later I got pregnant and my son was born...and they are almost exactly the same age differences that the 3 of us are.....well we found out last month that the first friend was pregnant (with #3) and now the 2nd is too...I guess I'm really feeling left out

 

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