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(Sadly) you're not alone. And it's going to keep happening. More sadly, I don't have much good advice to share other than focus on you and not them. And no, it's not fair, but neither is life. :-) Find a good stress reliever (singing, dancing, running, biking, ...) -- for me something active really helps. Hopefully someone else will have some more concrete suggestions. But again, you're definitely NOT the only one feeling this way. (And as noted on many other boards and threads, it's okay to feel this way.)

Unfortunately you are not alone. Each day will go by and another person will have a baby and another person will get pregnant or atleast thats what it will feel like. Recently i miscarried in march and since then i have had 5 friends get pregnant 4 of which feel pregnant around dec. the same time i became pregnant. One of which doesnt even want to be pregnant and is giving her baby up for adoption to a couple who cant have kids. I can tell you that each time a friends has a baby or each time a friend conceives i try and be there but it is harder each time. I think of it this way... i try and be happy for them, the same way i would want them to be happy for me. But the truth of the matter is you need to be more concerned about yourself then your reaction to your friends and family who become pregnant. Concentrate of your well being and if these people are your true friends... they will understand. Feel free to contact me at [email protected]

i really want to be happy for them but i cant..i cant feel happy for them because they got pregnant so easy,and i'll have to see their belly growing for 9 months and then have to see them with the baby..today i went to see my husband at work and his brother tells me that his wife is pregnant..my jaw just dropped, they havent even known each other a year and havent even been trying..i told my husband that if she ended up getting pregnant before me than i was going to go crazy,so i guess thats why he hadnt told me..i feel bad for not being happy for them but i cant help it,i guess u only get things easily when u dont want them...

I hear you, Amber. We've been trying for two years and have had no luck. In the last week I have found out that both of my two best friends are expecting. I'm happy for them, but at the same time it just sucks! I want to be a mom sooo bad and it's like I get kicked in the stomach day after day when practically everyone I know is either currently pregnant or has just had a baby. I know I'm whining but when will it be my turn???

you are truly not alone! i posted also (DEPRESSED) , I just had to get my feelings out. it does hurt when everyone else has no problems with getting preg and most of them don't even want to be.i just continue to pray and ask God to give me and my dh a baby soon!:)

Hi Amber, First off let me say that I can definitely relate with you. We were trying for 2 years before I got pregnant but the celebration quickly ended when I m/c at 9 weeks. It took another 5 years of watching every friend, relative and co-worker easily get pregnant and alot of tears before I became pregnant again. Ironically, I had finally come to terms to accept that I would never be a mother and although I hated the thought of it, I had begun to plan the rest of my life out as a childless woman. I could not understand what I had done in life so terrible that I couldnt have a child yet I would see women neglecting themselves while pregnant or screaming at their children and complaining about them and I would think "why do they get to have children and not me?" and then it finally WAS me. It is completely normal to become frustrated and angry and even more normal to become resentful of others that are able to get pregnant (ecspecially without any effort). Just dont give up and take care of yourself because there are happy endings out there.......

thanks for all the positive responses,hopefully it will be me next!! i just hope that no one else ends up pregnant because that might just kill me...i feel bad to feel like this but i cant help it....

HEY I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL, I TO HAVE BEEN TRYING TO GET PREGNANT FOR ABOUT A YEAR NOW AND HAVENT HAD ANY LUCK.....IT MAKES ME MAD AND HURTS ME VERY MUCH WHEN SOMEONE WHOSE NOT EVEN TRYING TO GET PREGNANT ENDS UP GETTING PREGNANT...BUT LETS NOT GIVE UP AND LETS KEEP OUR HOPES UP..GOOD LUCK TO YOU.

Hi Girls. I’m new to this site and I think it’s great to talk to people in the same situation. I was on BC for one year and cane off in on the 16th August, we started trying right away and I was hoping to be pregnant by this time, but I got my af yesterday. I really felt sad, we both did, hubby tried to act as if nothing wrong happened, but I know he was gutted.
Well, we’ll keep our fingers crossed & try again around Sep 5-8! Baby Dust to all!!!

when tha happens to me i use it as a chance to get practise with little things like changeing nappies and holding them correctly if your friends know you are trying for one they wont mind so long as you dont try to run things on them just help out and practise it really helps to cope