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Mother2bsoon I have the same test date as you. Wishing all of us BFPs!!!
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Hi there ladies. I hope everyone had a great Valentines Day...mine was good. Followed tradition..McDonalds and a movie!! We went to see a night in the museum...I thougth it was a good movie. I just loved it. Dani no symptoms yet..either way. I feel like I always do. And as tempted as I may be I will not test until the 22nd. I thought about it last night and dh was like no let's just let it go and wait. He is right. 2ww - UGH!!!!!!!!
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Dani, it is not the part of "understanding struggles of infertility", which is something I actually don't expect anyone to understand. However, my trouble with her is the fact that she never offered any sorrow for me for our loss or anything...how can I be happy for someone else when they cannot even be sad for me during my darkest moment??? My husband said it best. He compared it to going up to a soldier that lost his leg in battle and saying hey, you lost your leg in the battle, I have two legs. The issue I am dealing with lies deeper than just having people understand infertility, it is my question why someone lacks a bit of humanity and compassion. (On top of the fact my mom asked her to keep it to herself.) I hate to keep rehashing this, but I just want to reiterate the reason why its hard for me to blow it off.
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Thanks mother2bsoon, your words are very soothing.
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Hi there Linds...girl I am sorry you have had to deal with all of this. I am sorry we have all had to deal with these problems...somehow I believe we are getting stronger through all of this. I believe that all of the hard stuff we go through in our life is not just about us. When we get to the other side of those hard situations we are able to help someone else deal with the same stuff. We all at some point or another will be able to help someone deal with the pain of infertility or a m/c or a bad relationship or the death of a loved one -whatever the hard situation is. All of you ladies have been so helpful to me - I am thankful I was lead to this site....had you all not been dealing with infertility I would not have ever known you. Our lives would have never touched but now we will always carry a piece of one another with us. We will all end up getting pregnant and at some point spend less and less time on the forum b/c our lives have gotten so busy but there will still be a part of each of us with the other. Does that make sense or do I sound stupid? I had to put some humor in there - I was about to cry!!!! This is hard all the way around but we will make it and we will have happy endings. :o)
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I understand totally what you mean angelkitty. My faith in making this happen is strong. And yes, we all will get preggers. But the bend in the roads that we have in our life should never be compounded by hurt or pain inflicted on to others. For a woman who will become a mother, I believe that her heart should be open and loving and a mother should exude the "nurturing" quality right away, even while pregnant...but not just to an impending baby, but to practice nurturing others around us. I wonder what Kind of mother my sister will be when she can't nurture the pain of family around her, will she be capable of nurturing her own blood in a deep way that is normal and true??? I can tell which ones on this forum are seasoned nurturers, it is quite obvious by the words of comfort I've read from you guys, and I have no question that your compassion is sincere and you are born to be the wonderful nurturing mothers that deserve to have kids...and you will mold good kids that will nurture others (even strangers) when they are ready to do so. See, the cycle either begins, or it ends, but it starts with the mother, you know what I mean?
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Sorry to rehash it Linds I just wanted to offer some words of support. I wasn't implying that what your sister did was ok because she didn't understand, I was simply saying that some people cannot put themselve in the shoes of others. This is obviously the case with her. I'm sure she would know what she would expect if things were the other way around but it is not that way......so she can't relate and therefore doesn't see the necessity of overextending herself. It is definitely her mistake and her loss. I hope this comes out better and I am very sorry that you and dh have experienced this. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.
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dani1, I didn't take offense to anything you initially said to me. But thanks for taking the time again to reiterate your intent in your message. When someone gets physically hurt, gets in an accident unexpectadly and you see them in pain and the blood and weeks of physical healing, it is easy to generate sorrow and sadness for that person. So I understand why it may be hard for someone who doesn't carry obvious scars,bruises, etc. be able to get sorrow or sadness from someone, even though they are broken inside. But in retrospect to my situation, if someone "Told you" or "asked you" not to share your news, or information, with someone else, and that person went ahead anyway and did, don't you think that is betrayal covered with malice intent? So my husband and I just look at this and can't understand why she would not only purposely go behind my mom's request and purposely proceed to relay her news at the worst time (which was stated by my husband, "hey, things aren't going well at all." And that person purposely ignored his words too, and chose to proceed with their business to share their news, like nothing else in the world matters to them except to share their news, despite the wishes of a mother or the hurt in my husband's voice. That is why I tend to see this more than what you guys may see it as, I tend to see her evilness, and not just an inability to extend one's self to another. Ya know?
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SKY-Thanks alot for your comment and welcome aboard! Hey TINK- GOOD LUCK today!
There is so much here to catch up on!!! PAM- I am ok, feeling wierd these days...
ADDIE- Good Luck!! Hold on, just a few more days to go! I test 2 days after you
on the 26th! I admit that I am nervous and hopeful, I had an FET on Monday!
I just had a pulling pain on my lower left side, WIERD! Not reading too much in
to that though! ANGEL- my girl! How's it going? How're you feeling today?!
M2B-I am also in the 2ww and my best advice is to keep busy! I know there are those
in between times when you can't help but think of it, and that's ok... but try to
remain calm & collected! I test the day after you! DANI- GOOD LUCK to you as well!
LINDS- if you don't want to let it go right now, DON'T!!! She doesn't deserve that,
when YOU are ready to let it go, YOU will...until then, OH WELL!! LOL!!! Well said ANGEL,
well said!! LINDS, we are on the ssme page of the same chapter of the same exact BOOK!
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Dani your words were very sweet - thanks for joining the thread and be a part of our group. Linds, do you want me to kick your sister's butt and break her down like a shot gun? I will!! I can still be a cop!!! LOL!!! I say that to my little sister when someone has hurt her and she usually ends up laughing at me (I am not sure if she laughs because I am so short and petite and the very thought of me fighting with someone is really amusing or if she wonders how in the world I ever made it as a cop for 7 years). But she does smile - actually she laughs uncontrollably which is just making me angry thinking about it! Just joking. JB - lady I am so excited for you!!!!! I cannot wait for you to test!!!! Tink...I am thinking of you....post as soon as you feel like it and tell us everything. :o) Mother 2B...just stay busy!!!! That is the only thing i can say....Pam...a 48 progesterone level! Wow!!!! And I thougth I was all that. :o) Lovemy3...I promise I would not kick anyone's butt....I do not like to fight and I was only trying to make Linds laugh!!! I swear I am a good girl!!!! :o)
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Thanks Ladies! I will probably need you all to distract me:-). Praying for God's very best for each of you.
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angelkitty, seriously... WAY Hilarious! Ok, funny for your sister because your a little one (but sooo funny for me because that is an "angelkitty" talking like that :) I love you guys, heart of gold everyone has...I dream of the day we launch a thread to share baby pictures...
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ANGEL- I agree with LINDS---HILARIOUS!!!!
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time for a shorter thread?
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