2ww driving you crazy- Part 17
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lovemy3 - February 12

so.....how long till you can test?

 

angelkitty - February 12

I will not test until Feb 22nd which is my birthday!!!! As tempted as I am I will not test until that day. :o)

 

TTC#3@35 - February 12

LM3 - I had the surge same day as you & I tested again next day which I still had surge.. But I ran out of tests but did see a rise in temps so i think i o'd.. But my darn low temps makes me not confident at all that this is the month.

I ask you ladies over here about them.
My Temps are ranging from 96.4-9 pre o then now 97.39 post o.. I do temp at 4:45 am which is early, but does anyone know if this is normal at that time?

THanks
TTC#3 - 4dpo

 

linds99 - February 13

Hi guys. Well, it's all over for me. Seriously, last Thursday, I experienced 13 hours of non-stop contractions, blood and hell. It was horror. I passed the baby at about 2:30 in the morning last Friday. We were able to avoid the d&c, as I went to the doctor the next day, gave her the baby so she can test to see what was wrong with it and she looked at my uterus. It was empty. My lining went from 21 mm to a mere 8 mm in one day, that is how much blood and tissue I passed in about 13 hours. My husband and i were in shock, as they told us to expect a "heavy period." This was far from a period, it was so bloody that I woke up in the midle of the the night in a red reservoir and my white underware was COMPLETELY red, all the way to the elastic. There was no white anywhere left on it. I went through about 14 pads in one day. And I am still bleeding today. Anyway, my HCG levels went from 7,000 last Friday to a mere 1,200 on Monday, so they were happy to see it go down that fast, which means alot of the baby tissue was passed. Anyway, angelkitty, I saw that you were sad about your sister's snide remark. Boy, do I have a story for you! As you ladies know, my baby died 2 weeks before I finally bled. I told everyone in my family we lost the baby, and received a lot of comfort and vocal support as we waited for nature to take our baby. During that two week wait, my older sister NOT ONCE called or emailed us to offer her sorrow OR support or any kind words to help us heal from our loss. But last Wednesday, I finally got an email from her saying "I hope all is well now..." HOW Callous? She said nothing about how sorry she was, nothing. Like I just got over it after a week and a half. Keep in mind, my mom, my brother and my little brother all told her the baby died two weeks ago. So finally, she called me the same day I was passing the baby and bleeding like a wounded animal and in so much pain. My husband answered the phone and she preceded to ask him about the weather and asked how things were. He said "Things are not going well, things are very bad right now." She didn't offer any condolences or take the hint to say hey I will call at a better time, I hope you guys get through this...nothing. She just blurted out "I'm pregnant." My husband was so devastated by her callousness. He didn't even congratulate her or anything...He couldn't as he was in so much pain too as we lost this baby together that night. He saw everything too. Anyway, he told me what she did and how she didn't even say she was sorry for our loss or anything. He was so mad, he called my mother and told her what she did. My mother started to cry all night! She couldn't believe my sister could do that to us. Nobody could believe it. She was like a robot, no heart or feelings at all for us and our loss. Like a monster. Anyway, my mother told my husband that she asked my sister to keep her news to herself last week, as she said that we were going through a painful experience. That is why my mother cried, becuase my sister did it anyway. She thought it was more importatnt to share her news with us, than to wait a while longer as we got more time to heal. And she picked a hell of a night to do it too. When I finally emailed her on Sunday explaining how horrible it was for her to do that to my husband and I, put us in that situation. She only could say "it was bad timing." She still didn't offer her condolences or sorrow for our loss or anything. I basically told her then that I was horrified by her lack of insensitivity and how she could do this to her own sister. It was something you shouldn't even do to a neighbor or a friend, let alone a sister. My husband compared it to a soldier going in to get his leg amputated and having a guy come in to tell the amputee that hey, I got two legs and you have only one, right after surgery. Really, this whole miscarriage has been traumatic for me and my husband, but honestly, my sister doing this to us was equally as traumatic. Right now, I have written her out of my life, as I have no heart to even share anything with her anymore. She was so cruel, that she wanted to hurt us, kick us in the stomach one last time, than to console us when we were down. Is this not the act of a cruel woman? What do you think this was? I just can't forgive this. I believe in God and that everyone should be given the opportunity to be forgiven.,.. but how can I forgive someone who, when it was explained to her that she hurt us, refused to have any sorry in her heart of her actions and lack of humanity toward our darkest moment. I am just simply devastated all around.

 

lovemy3 - February 13

Linds...I am so happy to hear from you and so sorry to hear everything you have been through. My heartbreaks for you and your dh right now. I am so sorry. Hugs. That was very cruel of your sister, so hurtful. I don't even know what to say to help you feel better. You have suffered so much. I feel so bad. All I can offer is my prayers for you and your dh and my friendship and letting you know I am here to chat with. Big hugs and many prayers XOXO.

 

angelkitty - February 13

Linds, I am so sorry for what you have been through. I am sorry your sister acted the way she has. I am not sure I understand why she would do that. She probably does not even understand herself. I am so sorry girl. I am just so so sorry for what you have been through. It is so good to have you back on the thread - we have all missed you so much. You would definitely get the award for the most popular person on this forum! Girl people everywhere are asking about you!!!! I will be thinking of you and praying for you. :o)

 

JB0405 - February 13

PAM-good to know that you're doing well! Thanks for the well wishes. LOVE-I am no
expert on numbers but apparently those are good numbers,so I am rooting for you. ANGEL-
I know all too well what you mean about people not really caring or caring but not the
way you think, you know?! That's what I discovered with coworkers as well... there are a
few that knew from a while ago what we were up to BUT I have managed to keep things just to
my bosses and close coworkers/friends. Out of those, I keep my bosses more informed for
obvious reasons and my close friend/"mom at work"/coworker, she is a bit older and has 2
boys with her husband of close to 10 years, so talking to her is easy BUT my family, HA!!
The only people that really know the deal are my parents, DH, MIL, SIL and my stepdaughter
knows some! I have a cousin that gets on my last nerve always talking about how DH & I are
so young, etc. etc. etc. She has a 20 year old daughter and had her when she was younger than
I am now. My whole point is DON'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO WITH MY LIFE!! I am about to be 31yo,
when do they realize that you are not 5 anymore... That's why DH & I have decided to tell
only those people that count in our lives. Now that my venting is over...LOL!!! I feel ok today,
My ET was yesterday and I have been in bed all day... I am now sitting up and typing to you guys!
It's supposed to start snowing here in NYC with in the next 2 hours, not looking forward to that!
I will test on 2/26, keep those prayers & well wishes coming! LINDS- WOW!!! I too have an older sister
who refuses to take my calls or return my messages on her machine... I have finally realized that
I have done what I can. Your sister needs a stern talking to and I think that while you may be
pissed right now, maybe in time you 2 will make up BUT I agree that she needs to show some compassion!
That was inhumane, you do not do that to people ESPECIALLY family. I hope you & DH are doing better and
continue to improve together.

 

Tink - February 13

good luck Love!! JB- you are a trooper with the PIO shots, i hope they are not that bad for me. i start them saturday. my retrieval is on thursday, have to be there at 6am. i am triggering tonight. 13 good sized follies, they think 7 will be mature. so hopefully all 7 or the majority will fertilize and grow. we have approved them to do ICSI if they think the need to (emergency ICSI). angelkitty- sorry about your sister. i have been so blessed having great family support. both my little sisters (one who has 2 kids) and my parents are great, plus my great aunt and cousin who are like second moms to me. i email them daily my reports and while they don't always know or understand it all, they cheer me on and are amazed at what it takes to make a baby. it really is a miracle it happens at all naturally. lol--i hope you find some good support in us at least. i am thinking of you! Pam- good to hear from you, hope you are well.

 

Tink - February 13

Linds- i had to do a separate post for you. wow, that is all i can say....wow. what heartless cruelty. i am so sorry about your loss and even more sorry about how traumatic your experience once. i can't even pretend to imagine, but you do have my sympathy and thoughts. i've been thinking about you everyday. i know it will take a while to heal. i am so sorry you had to experience even more grief with your sister. that is the last thing you needed. there is no excuse. not even ignorance. that is simply just wrong. i hope you had other support and I know your DH is there for you. I sent your story to my 2 little sisters (29 and 31!). just know we are here for you too. i know it is the internet, but we care and are praying for you and DH.

 

SkyKennels - February 13

Hey, linds, we have never chatted. I am fairly new here, though previously I browsed and asked an occasional question in preparation of my own fertility journey. But I had to comment! I am so sorry, girl. I can't IMAGINE what you must be going through, and just as much, what exactly has been going through your sister's mind to do what she did. My dad and his older sister have a bit of a strange relationship, too, in a sense, he loves the h... out of her (both my grandparents passed away and she is his last connection to their shared past, I guess) and in my, admittedly biased opinion, she treats him like dirt. I am not sure what that is about, too, but I am thinking your sister has done the same thing, just as yours, JB, if perhaps not quite so cruelly. My deep DEEP sympathies to you, ladies. And linds, I wish you and DH the healing and renewing of hope I imagine you must desperately need. Lisa.

 

lovemy3 - February 14

Good mornming ladies. Anybody else getting this blizzard? My kids are happy- snow day!

 

angelkitty - February 14

Not yet Lovemy3 but it was snowing a little when I was on my way to the doctor this morning for my progesterone level test. The temp is dropping...I wish it would snow and keep on snowing and not stop snowing for a couple of days!!! Happy Valentines Day Ladies!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

TTC#3@35 - February 14

So sorry Linds about your loss & your sisters behavior.. take care of yourself.

Yes, LM3 - tons & tons of snow here. My kids had off yesterday & today, BUT im stuck here at work.. booo hissss.
How ya feeling?
TTC - 6dpo

 

pmblake - February 14

Linds! I'm so happy you're back.. I'm so so sorry and I've been praying that you would recover from this. I have to mention this -- do you remember me sharing my story w/ you about going through a m/c and my sister not saying or doing a thing for me. I was out to eat w/ my family having these horrible unannounced contractions and her just looking at me. Then she also announced days later that she was pregnant! I have only talked w/ my sister once since then. She's completely alienated herself from me. It happens and I'm not sure why... Maybe growing apart? different likes and dislikes.. but she's still your sister and I'm sorry she's treated you so badly. Maybe she has conflict issues? maybe she has crummy defense mechanisms, who knows. As I tell my husband - it's my sister's loss. She'll need me one day and of course I'll be there for her. Hang in there Linds!

 

pmblake - February 14

Angel Kitty - Did you get your test results yet? JB how are you feeling? LOVE I have been keeping up w/ you and your Dr visit results... Sounds like things are moving along for you. How is the 2ww?? I guess there are several of you in the 2ww. You go MIA for a day and so much happens!

 

lovemy3 - February 14

Hey all, TTC@35, me too just waiting it out. I hope we all get our BFPs this month. Seems like forever. The only hormone I haven't had checked is my Progesterone. maybe thats the problem too. Pam, glad you are well. very snowy here...brrrr. Happy Valentines day!

 

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