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Hi I'm posting this question here and at the problems conceiving board. Maybe a little tmi so please be forewarned :) I am 27 and my bf is 29, we have been together about 7 years. I have had total baby fever for about two years and wanted a baby pretty badly for about 3. Now my bf uses the lure of unprotected sex to seduce me when I'm not in the mood, and he says that the only way he could be ready for a baby is if it happened by accident. I wish he wanted to be more direct but this is the best he can offer, he can't seem to comitt to anything until it happens, which explains why we're common law married instead of wedded. Anyway, the problem is, after he promises to have unprotected sex, then he keeps pulling out. I try to get some in, and he also jokes that if I can keep him in, then I win, but it's not a competition! So, I need some technical tips (no emotional advice please!) for how to get pregnant when he keeps pulling out and the sperm is on my stomach and needs to be inserted manually. Sorry if this is tmi but what I'm trying to find out is things like how much of it needs to get in me, and how far I need to insert it, etc., because I am getting tired of one line and I wanna see two, ASAP.
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 | Kay - September 11 |
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Doesn't sound like you guys are on the same page. He is using your desire for a baby to manipulate you into sex. Think carefully about having a baby with a man that would do that, not marry you and otherwise cannot committ. He sounds like he would not make a very committed dad. Sorry.
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| D. - September 15 |
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I have to agree with Kay and CC sweetie. This man is being cruel. But if you insist on continuing with him, how about getting him to wear a condom (NO SPERMICIDE of course). Would he be game for that? Then you can simply take the sperm out of the condom. It's the only way I can think of.
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| me - September 16 |
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I know you don't want emotional advice, but why are you trying to have a baby with this man who obviously does not want the same thing? If you still want a baby with him, stay on top of him and grab his ass so he can't pull out. Wrap your legs around him too. I hope you know what you are doing and not just having a baby with him because you wantone. Good luck.
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u been with this man for 7 yrs so seems what we gove for emotional advice your not going to try. i suppose you can Get on top. very hard to pull out when your on top.
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Do Not Have a Baby with this man.....unless you are ready to be a single parent and I do mean SINGLE
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This is hard to say because I am not a Dr. but my advise is to be on top so you are in control, and wrap your legs around him so he doesn't have any where to go but INSIDE!!! That is one thing you can do. Or if you have a suringe of some kind you can suck the sperm into then put inside yourself,(like you would a tampon removeing the suringe afterwards of course). If he has pre-cumm you have a good chance because the sperm count I have heard is greater. (don't tell hi that or you will never get any :) I hope that helps, Sorry if some of it sound wrong but if he wants to play dirty... play dirty. I do have to say that I also agree with Kay. In the end God will have the final say.
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Cynthia, I just wanted to say you are not alone. I have a posting in this section to . My husband has promised me children but keepschanginghis mind.so I am going to have to play dirty to. Go to the doctor and have a complete check up. Have them help your figure out your ovulation timing or just go to the store and buy a kit. That way you can try to time a littlebetter . Let me know how it works out. Hopefully we willbe pregos soon!!!!
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GIRL THAT DUDE IS REALLY TRIPPING I AGREE WITH KAY ALSO HE IS JUST USING THE FACT THAT YOU WANT A BABY TO HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX WITH YOU AND ARE YOU REALLY SURE YOU WANT TO STAY WITH HIM BECAUSE IF HE'S ACTING LIKE THIS NOW HOW DO YOU KNOW HE WONT ACT THE SAME WAY WHEN YOU ARE PREGNANT BUT RESEARCH SHOWS THAT IF YOU ARE TRYING TO CONCEIVE YOU SHOULD NOT BE ON TOP YOU SHOULD BE ON THE BOTTOM IF YOU ARE ON TOP THE CUM IS JUST GOING TO BE COMING RIGHT BACK DOWN I SUGGEST YOU WRAP YOUR LEGS AROUND HIM AND KEEP HIM IN . BUT YOU SHOULD REALLY SIT AND ANAYLZE THE SITIUATION BEFORE YOU BRING A BABY IN THIS WORLD.
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