partners kids
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Donna - April 19

I am 33 w with my 4 child (not including 2 that I have miscarried) they are 7, 4, and 3. I went into premature labor 2 weeks ago and was put on modified bed rest. My midwife told me to take it easy and not to push myself. I am also a full time college student. I use all my enegry to go to school. I live with my boyfriend who has a 10yr old and 12 yr old. (I know 6 kids, we will be the brady bunch) I can get my younger kids to help with the household chores but there is only so much that they can do with out making a bigger mess to clean up. I can not even get the older ones to take their dishes to the sink and it is a battle for the trash to get taken out. I have tried explaining to them that I can not do it now. And what could happen if I push myself too hard. They must help out. i have tried giving extra game time, even punishing them if they do not do it. But they do not seem to care. They yell at me with attitudes, talk down to the younger kids, try and tear up the stuff that belongs to the baby and the other kids. I do not know if I can take anymore of this treatment. They are having a harder time with the new baby coming than the younger kids are. They will not act like this infront of their dad, so when I tell him how they act when he is not there. he makes me feel like i am blowing it up and it is just my hormones. If dad does say anything to them, the next day is worse until he gets home. Sometimes I wonder if they are trying to hurt me. If they get mad, they will do little things like dumping a bottle of shampoo in the bottom of the bath tub just before I get in the shower, then try to blame the younger kids for it (they younger ones can not reach the shampoo). i need some advice

 

honeyHBD - June 10

you need to have a heart to heart talk with your husband/the whole family. gather them around in a dinner and open up the issue. tell them what you feel and that they need to work hand in hand with you. i know it sounds simple but it's effective. if it still doesn't work, then seek professional help or counselling. good luck!

 

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