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Shala - August 27th, 2005 1:13 AM

I would have nevert thought this would be an issue for me, but I have got myslef in a situation that I cant seem to see a way out. I have been with my fiance for 13 years. I have a son and daughter from a previous relationship and my fiance is like there father. They have no contact with there biological father. However, my fiance and I have been going through a difficult time, and for the first time in my life I cheated on him. And to make matters worse it was with his best friend. It happened once and now I am pregnant and dont know who the father is. I have no desire to leave my fiance, and there is no way that he will understand or forgive me. I guess the aprt that scares me most is the example i will be setting to my other children provided they find out. The values I have always stood for are diminshed. Looking back i am not even sure how this happened. It seems so unreal and I feel like I am part of a Jerry Springer show. I have never been one to support abortion but i dont know what to do. I am scared that i will tell my fiance, we will break up and then the child will be his and I could have just kept quiet, yet it could his friends and how fair is that? Anyone have any suggestions

El - August 27th, 2005 1:15 AM

I think you need to do what is right. I think you should tell your fiance. I know you dont think he will forgive you, but being honest about something like this is really the only way to get by with any kind of dignity. your children love you and will support you know matter what.

JessicaG. - February 20th, 2006 7:19 PM

I think you should be honest, I mean you have been together for a very long time and if he already knows that you cheated then you need to tell him that you are preg. also you need to ask yourself are you going to be able to live with yourself if you do something like this? Also I know that recovery from a abortion takes a few days will he want to know what is going on? And if he does not know that you cheated you should just suck it up and tell him because he will find out.....that is his best friend. Well any way whatever you choose good luck and I wish you well.

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